Friend’s first Father’s Day without dad - would you send a wee text?

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Very close friend, her dad died last summer. Had been ill for a very long time and was elderly, but I know she loved him very much.

I keep thinking I should send her a wee text saying I’m thinking of her/sending love tomorrow but at the same time she might not be finding it a difficult
day and I wouldn’t want to upset. I know she has got a lot of plans this weekend so will be busy so might not even cross her mind and if it hasn’t I don’t want to bring it up iyswim.

Would it be alright to just send a couple of lines eg ‘realise tomorrow is Father’s Day and just wanted to send you a wee hug’ - do you think that would be OK?

Please do. My dad died over 10 years ago and one friend texts me every year and it means so much to me. And what you've suggested texting is perfect. You're a lovely friend.

I think a brief "thinking of you" text would be very thoughtful, OP.

Highly unlikely that, despite having a busy weekend, she'll forget Father's Day. I wouldn't worry about "bringing it up".

I'd sent it today. "Thinking of you this weekend". She might feel a bit raw on Father's Day. (Or she may not - it wasn't a date that was particularly significant to me, unlike birthdays)

Yes definitely.

We sent flowers on Mother’s Day to a friend who had recently lost her mum and she appreciated them ❤️

I think that's nice. It's always nice to know a friend is thinking of us.

Twice I've had a difficult time - one of these a bereavement - and the friends who acknowledged it were gratefully noted. The ones who ignored things, I noticed.

Definitely..my dad has been gone 7 years and still appreciate when people remember

Yes.

It's worse when people ignore it.

Yes I would - I think a thoughtful text or a card or however you would normally say things to her would be appreciated.

Please do, a friend of mine did this for me for the first father's day without my dad and I greatly appreciated it. It really meant a lot that someone thought of me on this day.

Yes that would be really lovely.

Please do, very thoughtful.

Such a lovely, thoughtful thing to do OP

Hi I would say definitely, my dad died a year last January and on Father's Day a few friends sent me similar texts to the ones youre suggesting. It really helped and comforted me x