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I’ve been nosy on LinkedIn- help!

33 replies

GoldenCagedBird · 15/06/2023 18:05

I was LinkedIn stalking someone. I don’t use it very much, and I’ve just remembered that I have a private profile.

I tapped their name via the search, so it’ll be even more mortifying if they know that I have found them by name.

I’d imagine I’ll come up as a link with my husband who she knows- so no hiding!

I’ve tried to cover it up by viewing the profile of lots of other people in their industry- as if I’m researching the sector as a whole. Such cringe

It was nothing other than nosiness- they are the DP of my husband’s acquaintance and did a service for our family business (think accountancy-ish) for us a few months back. I was reading through an old report she did a few months back and just got severely nosy.

trying to think of a way to style this out. I know it probably won’t register and no one cares but I’m prone to obsessions.

aghhhhhh!

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WingBingo · 15/06/2023 18:06

Hopefully they don’t pay for it. If they don’t they won’t know!

LapinR0se · 15/06/2023 18:06

Yes she will be able to see it’s you unless you have a hidden profile?

justanothermanicmonday1 · 15/06/2023 18:07

I wouldn't even pay any attention to it. You're allowed to have a nosy. No harm. We all do it.

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GoldenCagedBird · 15/06/2023 18:07

That should say I don’t have a private profile

clearly am bad at IT today

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NoTimeToThinkOfUsername · 15/06/2023 18:11

@GoldenCagedBird if it makes you feel any better, I've done the exact same thing- also because I was nosey. I then followed it up by looking at lots of completely random profiles 😂

I've also, accidentally liked something on someone's profile on Facebook; I was just on their profile, as i once again couldn't help myself 🤨

tackling · 15/06/2023 18:11

I have a LinkedIn profile that I haven't used for ages - I update it with new jobs now and then but not much else. Maybe she doesn't check it either?

HopelessEstateAgents · 15/06/2023 18:12

What? I LinkedIn stalk ppl all the time and they stalk me. Literally NO ONE cares.

ksjsb · 15/06/2023 18:14

If she hasn't got a premium account she might not be told, LinkedIn only selectively tells me who has looked at my profile because I don't pay for it.

3dogsandarabbit · 15/06/2023 18:16

Haha don't we all do this! I was looking at an ex boyfriend's Facebook a few years ago. This was someone I dated in my early 20s so 30 odd years ago. I was looking at his friends list and saw a younger man with the same surname and thought it must be his son so clicked on it to have a nosy. It was his son but what I didn't realise was that I had somehow pressed the follow icon. I couldn't work out why whenever his son posted something that Facebook notified me. It took me about 2 years to realise what I'd done!

HewasH20 · 15/06/2023 18:17

The clue is in the name LinkedIn. It sounds as though you had a legitimate reason to look at her profile.

Cakeandslippers · 15/06/2023 18:20

I never check who has viewed my profile and I stalk people literally all the time, no bad has ever come from it. I like to keep up to date with what people are doing for legitimate reasons but also because I'm nosy!

greenisnotserene · 15/06/2023 18:21

Sometimes linkedin will tell people who has looked at their profile and other times it's hidden unless they pay a subscription (and most people don't). Even if it does come up, it won't matter how many other people you have clicked on, they will just get the notification that you viewed their profile.

However, people click on profiles all the time, sometimes I think, why have they looked at my profile?, but I don't put any more thought into it than that. They will likely think they came up in your feed and you clicked on it, they won't think more about it than that.

greenisnotserene · 15/06/2023 18:21

3dogsandarabbit · 15/06/2023 18:16

Haha don't we all do this! I was looking at an ex boyfriend's Facebook a few years ago. This was someone I dated in my early 20s so 30 odd years ago. I was looking at his friends list and saw a younger man with the same surname and thought it must be his son so clicked on it to have a nosy. It was his son but what I didn't realise was that I had somehow pressed the follow icon. I couldn't work out why whenever his son posted something that Facebook notified me. It took me about 2 years to realise what I'd done!

Haha, you win!

Mumteedum · 15/06/2023 18:23

Generally you only know if you pay for premium version. I wouldn't worry about it

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GoldenCagedBird · 15/06/2023 18:26

Cakeandslippers · 15/06/2023 18:20

I never check who has viewed my profile and I stalk people literally all the time, no bad has ever come from it. I like to keep up to date with what people are doing for legitimate reasons but also because I'm nosy!

Ok- hoping she is like this

just imagining her saying ‘who is this? Sandra philpott?’

her DP - ‘Sandra philpott? No clue’

’says she’s a surgeon for cats and other small mammals’

’hold on, jake’s wife is a cat surgeon…yeah she’s a sandy. Must be her’

’why is she searching me on linked in?’

’weird’

‘what a weirdo. Gonna question her at a dinner party and tell Jake to rein in his missus’ stalking and stick to small mammal surgery’

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GoldenCagedBird · 15/06/2023 18:26

Not called Sandra, not a cat surgeon either btw

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CornishTiger · 15/06/2023 18:28

If you block her it won’t show.

ksjsb · 15/06/2023 18:36

@GoldenCagedBird 😂 that's the level of catastrophising I do!

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GoldenCagedBird · 15/06/2023 18:40

CornishTiger · 15/06/2023 18:28

If you block her it won’t show.

Do I dare aghhh

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feellikeanalien · 15/06/2023 18:46

OP when i first started using Facebook I accidentally sent a friend request to my ex-husband. He accepted it!! We'd been divorced for over 20 years. Very embarrassing.

Malariahilaria · 15/06/2023 18:55

There is an option on LinkedIn to secret search. Please turn it on for all stalking, its not premium so we all have it. For serious nosing please create an alt account with a fake name and Hotmail, then you can nose to your hearts content.

honeylulu · 15/06/2023 19:32

Don't they have to pay for premium to be able to see who's looked at their profile? Most people don't have it. I can see that x people have checked out my profile and a general idea of which organisations they represent but that's it.

TheFormidableMrsC · 15/06/2023 19:34

I found out about the OW my ex insisted didn't exist because of LinkedIn. Her best friend had stalked both mine and then husband's profile and all became clear 🙄

ItsCalledAConversation · 15/06/2023 19:38

I was stalked 3 weeks ago by an employer I haven’t worked for for 5 years and a college I had at the time. I dropped him (the colleague, who I was fairly friendly with at the time) a cheery hello and nothing. People are weird. LinkedIn is bad for my mental health, I really have to leave it alone or I get very very sad very quickly.

ZenNudist · 15/06/2023 19:42

Why is it wrong to look at people on LinkedIn? It's not like Facebook stalking. She's done something professional and now you are looking up more about her professionally. That's public information you want people to know about.

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