I think I have concluded he's just being a friend, but I don't know why he'd want that 😆
Maybe I read MN too much but isn't it odd that he's so "nice" to me?
He's 50+. I know him through a sporting interest. I've known him a long time but we became closer during lockdown. DH was seriously ill, friend was living alone and climbing the walls. He made a point of meeting up every week for the sport and then coming in for a drink/chat with DH. It makes my cry even now thinking about that kindness at such a difficult time, although it's true he was glad to get out of the house too, it was a godsend for both me and DH strictly speaking he probably shouldn't have come in but I decided he was helping with care
Anyway DH died 2 years ago. Since then friend has included me in many many group things with his other friends/ some mutual friends and we've had some fun times. We've even had a number of group weekends away. This during that period when you "find out who your friends are" and many of the couple friends DH and I had have drifted off. We've also been out a couple of times just the two of us. Always strictly platonic, never any move made.
Which is all good, but this man has a real reputation as a ladies man. Often out with/ chasing women much younger and more glamorous than me. He is a very good friend to his male friends too. The kind of person who will always be available if you need some furniture moving etc.
He has been immeasurably kind to me at a time when I really needed it, but if I'm honest I don't really know why!
We're not in touch constantly by any means but I see or hear from him most weeks. Sometimes he goes quiet for a few weeks and I assume that's a woman!
He's messaged today to say he's going away with his son for a couple of weeks, hopes I'm OK and we'll do (a thing we both really enjoyed last summer) when he gets back.
I don't really know what I'm asking. I quite like things as they are and I know that if he has a serious GF I'll see much less of him, but I wonder what his motivation for keeping in touch is. He contacts me much more than I contact him, although I have suggested trips out too.