Ds insisting on a coat

[Ceci03]

So DS is 14 and is insisting on wearing a coat and hoody at all times. It just makes me mad. He is so sweaty anyway! He says I need to mind my own business. I guess I should just let it go right. Just makes me so mad. He's just gone out with long sleeve T-shirt track bottoms thick socks runners hoody with the hood up and a quilted coat. Maybe he just likes winding me up Grrrrrrrrr

He is 14. Smile and wave!

Teach him to use the washing machine so you don't have to deal with the excess clothes b

DD2 does similar, she only stopped wearing a coat when it reached 30 degrees where we are. Apparently ‘everyone’ does it 🙄

Why does it make you mad?

Just let him get on with it 🤷‍♀️

I think it’s one of those things where you just have to pick your battles.

although before that I wokld want to be sure he isn’t wearing long sleeves to hide self harm (I’m not saying it is or even is likely to be but always worth being aware)

Sod all that extra unnecessary washing.
Id be annoyed too tbh.
Plus surely imhw could overheat and become unwell. My car read 34.5 yesterday at one point. So blooming hot

Teenagers are known for being difficult . I remember one of my sons, at that age, refusing to wear a coat and/or jumper in winter. After nagging and getting nowhere, I left him to it. He quickly realised how uncomfortable he was.

Manz not hot!

Leave him to it but insist he sorts out the extra laundry himself

Aslong as he's not doing it to hide self harm I would let him get on. I spent this morning finding the thinnest pair of trousers I could possibly wear to work then drove past loads of kids in hoodies so guessing it is common

It's the opposite here, teenagers want to wear a t shirt in the snow. Let it go.

I would be slightly concerned about self harm though.

When I was at school it wasn't cool to wear a coat. Would be freezing in my school shirt. Kids are weird.

Is he self conscious? I was at that age and wanted to cover up as much as possible.

Remember when he was a toddler and wouldn’t wear proper clothes and would only wear one welly, one flip flop, a pyjama top and no trousers?
It’s the teenage equivalent of that.

Self harm, or to annoy you. Or to look like his mates.

All actually perfectly reasonable. Some of us come late to realising comfort trumps style!

For a lot of teens it's their armour against the world...even though ironically it probably makes people pay more attention than if they were just in shorts and Tshirts in this weather.

Just encourage plenty of fluids and have a chat about the warning signs of overheating just in case they really misjudged things. Otherwise smile and wave!

I've seen a few people in puffa jackets over the last few days and I can't imagine how hot they must be.

But as long as it's not for anything illegal (eg hoodies up to disguise their face on security cameras) and they're not self harming/trying to disguise an eating disorder, then let them crack on. They're old enough to suffer the consequences of their choices and it's not like they're going to come to any lasting harm.

Is he overweight? My son wore hoodies in summer in Spain one year because he was so self conscious. He put himself on a strict diet and exercise regime and lost 40kgs. No more hoodies!

My DD hates coats. Even in December. I just let her get on with it.

My DD was like this until she reached 14, honestly it used to drive me insane. Now we have the opposite and she's barely covered when she leaves the house ;)

Possible reasons: everyone else does; concealing his body due to self harm or body dysmorphia or eating disorder; secret tattoos; difficulty regulating body temperature (interception, often linked with autism); sheer bloody-mindedness.

Absolutely this. Not the hill, OP. Handholding, though - it's hard watching them be twats

All the teenagers boys around here are walking round in hoodies and tracksuit bottoms. The girls are in skimpy shorts and crop tops!

Wait until winter, the boys will all be out in the snow with no coat!

Man not hot, innit? He's a teen. It's all about image.

Not quite the same but my son wears gloves all year round.

I just go along with it.