What's something you wish someone would have told you about life?

[ThatFraggle]

If you could go back in time with that knowledge, what would the knowledge be?

It's fine to be upset about things. You don't have to shake it off and 'get over it' straight away. Don't dwell, but find a way to healthily deal with sadness and frustration without pushing it down and ignoring it.

You can absolutely take your time. Just because a decision has to be made it doesn't mean it has to be made on the spot that second. Some people are more impulsive and get annoyed by deep thinkers, but don't let them force you into decision making. They won't take responsibility for your decisions if you make a mistake.

Software Engineer.

You are worthy even if you were fat, it’s really not the worst thing 😉

That’s what I was going to say 😁 software tester is a good one as well

I suffer with anxiety and this has helped me enormously. Every I think regretfully or guiltily about things I have said done or put up with, I tell myself

”this is very first moment of my life”.

The truth is that, what is done or said can’t be undone or unsaid. Bad things that happened to me in the past cannot be changed. I can vow from that moment to make my life better and be a kinder person and protect myself.

Hear hear to both of these

People don't care about anything or anyone outside of their family.

Stress less! Life is not a race. The mortgage and the baby can wait.

Like your style/vibe @ComtesseDeSpair !

I will hopefully think of something myself soon…. but am a bit lost. I do t really think I could of changed anything really.

One thing though - I would say don’t do any kind of sex you’re not 100% in favour of. There are some creepy men out there - not that many but a few - don’t pander to them, it’s demeaning to yourself and your female soul.

Oh, and don’t project your goodness onto others! Let people show you who they are.

As @EmpressSoleil said, being a cat lady - and life on your own terms - is veeeery underrated - and quite a lot of fun sometimes.

A lot of people don't know what they're talking about. Don't take everyone's opinions on your shoulders.

Protect your dreams, values and what matters to you.

Respect your inner BEAUTY, see it, accept it, enjoy it
even if others don’t
don’t sell yourself short
don’t let the bastards and bores
grind you down.

Well said! I feel exactly the same way

I second a lot of these. I wish I had chosen more of a career rather than falling into something and settling I suppose. Definitely sleep around and don’t feel guilty about it because once you meet your husband you’ll be sleeping with the same person for the rest of your life. ( not in a bad way) just enjoy it while you can. Enjoy life before kids! The kids phase is challenging and equally amazing in my experience BUT travel, go on holidays, meals out enjoy your child free days.

Your gut feeling about ‘that man’ was right - so just leave him!
That most things will be okay with time - e.g mistakes made in relationships, marriage break ups etc
Don’t spend hours worrying - that you may have said something wrong/ inappropriate while in company
Self care is important
Sort your mental health out earlier
Not to be afraid to challenge your parents and call out their behaviour
That having teenagers/ kids is really hard work
Not to spend so much money

That nobody is really interested in you or what you look like, they're too busy worrying about what other people think of them.

That now is important - don't spend all your time thinking about 'once this or that has happened things will be better'. Now is important. Don't wish time away.

Don't work for the NHS. Subconscious racism is REAL.

Travel!
Don’t settle down so young!
Go to the gym!
Remember your worth!

Feeling tired all the time is not normal.

HRT works, give it 6 months.

Save money before having kids. But also (somehow) try to fit in as many life experiences (gigs, travel, nice meals etc) beforehand too.

Your worth is not measured by what others think of you

SomethingFun has nailed it. I need to work on the last one.

You don't have to marry him just because you had sex.

Stay and explore London and it's opportunities.

Let go of the shame and humiliation that you married a wrong 'un.