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Just a small vent, else I'll cry

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ChiefWiggumsBoy · 14/06/2023 12:25

You know sometimes things just get on top of you? I'm categorically having One Of Those Days, I just want to cry, have a knot in the pit of my stomach. It's been a few weeks of irritating to scary things happening, and quite frankly I need some time out.

  • son was knocked down by a car couple of weeks ago. He was SO lucky - broken leg but no other injuries and he's healing well. But scary
  • roof leaked at the weekend during the thunder storms - we've spent the better part of £7k on it and thought it was fixed. So that's fun
  • car broke down yesterday - the only bright side being at least it's still within the warranty period as I bought it less than three months ago! But now I have an issue getting the aforementioned child with a broken leg to and from school
  • have been let down by a bathroom fitter who was due to come and fit a toilet under the stairs for us in a couple of weeks. It took 6 months to get three quotes as everyone is so busy, and now he's basically ghosted us. So frustrating!
  • did a piece of work for my boss and she's come back saying she's disappointed with it and has severely worked it over. I wouldn't mind if I'd done a really shit job, but quite a lot of it is just reworking the data I'd provided into a different format - and quite frankly, she could have just asked me to put in the additional bits or expand the summaries rather than doing it herself. But I'm upset anyway
  • need to remortgage and I'm getting really worried about how much the payments might be. That's more of a wait and see worry...

Anyway, thanks for reading. Nothing hugely terrible, but it's built up. I'll get over it. It helps to write it all down.

TL;DR: woman is overwhelmed and needs a break Grin

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EmmaEmerald · 14/06/2023 12:27

Oh mate
I would be crying

have a hug, or tea, or cake etc from me.

Topictwenty · 14/06/2023 12:27

I’d feel the same way as you. That is a lot of difficult things at once. It’s ok to vent!

HandsupSue · 14/06/2023 12:32

wow - these are actually pretty serious op and you’re not underplaying it.

what kind of a relationship do you have with your boss generally?

PerkingFaintly · 14/06/2023 12:37

Definitely a "cry, then eat chocolate" series of unfortunate events.

CakeBrew

DorotheaFrazil · 14/06/2023 12:53

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ChiefWiggumsBoy · 14/06/2023 13:03

HandsupSue · 14/06/2023 12:32

wow - these are actually pretty serious op and you’re not underplaying it.

what kind of a relationship do you have with your boss generally?

Generally ok. I don't know her very well though, I moved departments in October and work completely remotely. I've posted before though that the team I've been put in is not at all what I was expecting so the work I'm doing is...well, not what I was expecting and not in a good way. I also feel like she's not a micromanager, but she is the type who would rather work till 9pm than say "Chief, can you add these bits in and do XYZ as well please".

When I have my 121 I'm going to have to be honest and say I'm sorry the work wasn't up to the standard she was expecting, I would have amended had she sent me an email to do so rather than her completely reworking it.

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HandsupSue · 14/06/2023 13:16

ChiefWiggumsBoy · 14/06/2023 13:03

Generally ok. I don't know her very well though, I moved departments in October and work completely remotely. I've posted before though that the team I've been put in is not at all what I was expecting so the work I'm doing is...well, not what I was expecting and not in a good way. I also feel like she's not a micromanager, but she is the type who would rather work till 9pm than say "Chief, can you add these bits in and do XYZ as well please".

When I have my 121 I'm going to have to be honest and say I'm sorry the work wasn't up to the standard she was expecting, I would have amended had she sent me an email to do so rather than her completely reworking it.

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She thought it needed a complete re work

and to sit down and do this takes a lot of time

if I were you, I’d think how you will approach this issue in your 121 carefully, as she will raise no doubt herself

caringcarer · 14/06/2023 13:33

@ChiefWiggumsBoy, Hi OP it's really shit when everything comes at once isn't it? I'm in a similar situation. I'm buying a couple of houses through a Ltd company and at the last minute the lender is asking us to get a guarantor CV orm signed to say we are guarantor's to our Ltd company. I don't mind doing it as I know we'd be liable anyway but we have to use independent solicitors, not our ones handling the purchases. I've rang all 3 in our town and all day they can't do it for 3 weeks or more. Now one of the sellers is getting impatient waiting and told EA she is considering remarketing the property.

I had to take Foster Son to college to re-sit GCSE Maths today. It is 39 miles away. I set off 1 1/2 hours before he had to be there. Usually it takes a little over an hour so I thought he'd be early. There was an accident on the way and we had to sit in traffic for 50 minutes. He arrived 10 mins late. I thought they'd just give the 10 mins at the end but they refused. I've phoned to complain but had to leave an answerphone message. No one got back to me yet. I don't know what they can do now though. I think they should have drawn a line to where he got to, then let him carry on for 10 mins then sort out with the exam board after, but they didn't do that. 5 other kids were also arrived late for same reason and 2 came 20 mins late and we're not allowed to make up time.

The person I've had booked to come to do plumbing fix for over a month just text to say he is ill with COVID and will have to re-book me. Very vague.

My expenses are supposed to be paid within 2 weeks of submitting. They should have been paid a fortnight ago but not paid. I checked with LM if there was a problem and was told no problem just overlooked by payroll. Today I noticed they are still not paid so over a month late now. LM suggested I make a formal complaint. I don't have bloody time as I'm really busy with various deadlines. Makes me furious. I wanted money for our deposit on holiday booking now I can't book it. I'm worried now about the holiday will be sold out by another fortnight.

I'm just waiting for something else to go wrong.

I feel much empathy with you. It's one bloody thing after another and most is beyond my control. That's what I find so frustrating.

TokyoSushi · 14/06/2023 13:36

Ah OP, that's a lot. No advice but here's an unmumsnetty hug and a tea/coffee/gin - delete as appropriate.

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ChiefWiggumsBoy · 14/06/2023 13:42

HandsupSue · 14/06/2023 13:16

She thought it needed a complete re work

and to sit down and do this takes a lot of time

if I were you, I’d think how you will approach this issue in your 121 carefully, as she will raise no doubt herself

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Oh 100% I get it was a lot of work.

But my final version wasn't the only one she'd seen - if the layout wasn't to her liking then she could have said two weeks ago! But that's by the by, I can feel myself becoming defensive about it when really, I just need to suck it up and do better next time.

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HandsupSue · 14/06/2023 13:47

Your final version wasn’t the one she’d seen? Come again?

HandsupSue · 14/06/2023 13:50

Wasn t the only one i see

HandsupSue · 14/06/2023 13:51

So previous iterations - she never gave any feedback or guidance? Did she say nothing or gave the impression all good?

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ChiefWiggumsBoy · 14/06/2023 15:53

HandsupSue · 14/06/2023 13:51

So previous iterations - she never gave any feedback or guidance? Did she say nothing or gave the impression all good?

I got some feedback but not relevant to what she has changed.

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HandsupSue · 14/06/2023 16:30

ChiefWiggumsBoy · 14/06/2023 15:53

I got some feedback but not relevant to what she has changed.

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In that case, definitely something you can do about this issue. Ask for a chat and explain that clear guidance along the way would have avoided the situation and how can things improve going forward

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