Jewellery after divorce

[Lavenderfowl]

I’ve recently divorced my abusive XH. I’ve got rid of most of the jewellery he bought me/we bought together but there’s one piece I’m struggling with - it’s tainted now, even though it was bought in supposedly happier times.

I don’t know whether to keep it or sell it and buy myself something new - or if there’s a way I can rid it of the taint. It’s not my wedding ring, that’s gone already, it’s a lovely piece somewhere between everyday and dress jewellery and I used to love wearing it. Thoughts?

Put it in a drawer and bring it out in 12 months and see how you feel then.

Keep it for now maybe in jewellery box, and see how you feel about in a couple of years from now, when things aren't so raw?

Sell it and replace it with something that will be as pretty to wear. You will always remember the history.

I meant to add, I recently found something my violent abusive ex husband bought me. It brought back bad memories even though he bought it me in happier times and it was over 10 years ago.

Could you have it remodelled into a different style?

It can’t be remodelled unfortunately…I will keep it a bit longer and see, but I think it will always remind me of him as you say…and at the moment I’m wanting to get rid of anything he’s ever had anything to do with, bar the DC of course!

If it has any value, keep it - if only for your DC.

Mum mum got rid of hers and I think, now enough years have past, she regrets it. I could have had it or she could have worn it again - without the taint because so much time had past she was beyond caring about what had gone on.

I swapped stuff from my ex with my mum who was ditching stuff from hers. We both got stuff that was new to us with no memories attached.

I’m keeping my engagement ring for DS as it’s unusual and beautiful…but we’ll see about this bracelet, I just done know (XH has been so nasty I can’t see it ever not reminding me of that). Maybe I’ll just sell all of it and buy something new 😎

Lots of shops will trade in a piece ,or you can sell it to the pawn shop if more money that way . Its probably best with a fresh piece I think