My eldest DD is nearly 13, and has a broad group of friends. A small core group she’s had since preschool, and a wider group (that includes the core group) as a result of extra cuticular activities, such as sport and drama. She’s brill at making new friends and appears to have a wide friendship group.
She’s a bubbly, socialble girl and is always up for meeting up with friends, taking trips to go shopping or Starbucks. However, she has spotted that some of the group (wider and core) arrange sleepovers, hang out together and don’t say to her. She finds out by photos on Snapchat.
She’s really open and chats through most things with me, and she’s pretty hurt when she gets left out. She is frequently trying to arrange to meet/do things so doesn’t understand why she isn’t invited back. I’ve explained that it’s the nature of friendship groups, and that it’s ok to feel a bit sad about it.
She has discovered today that one of the girls is having a bday sleepover soon, and she is the only one (in a group of 5) who isn’t invited. A separate group chat has been created which she isn’t on, and she’s pretty upset. I’ve tried to say that perhaps she doesn’t have room for one more person, but she is hurt that once again she’s been left out.
Im sad for her, and wondered what else I can do to try and support her through these crappy friendship issues!