My toddler is 16 months old and started going to a nursery from 8am-4.30pm Mon-Fri a few months ago, when I went back to work. She had settled in well and seems happy there. At home, she and I have a very close bond. I'm her favourite person, and we are very snuggly and affectionate. I have no doubt that she is very securely attached. When not in nursery she is always with me. We co sleep and generally have a great relationship, which is why the following confuses me.
Since she started at the nursery, she always gives me the cold shoulder when I pick her up. She just looks at me with a completely neutral expression and doesn't make any effort to come to me. She just looks at me impassive and once looked a bit upset to see me. I nornally have to lift her out of her key worker's arms as she doesn't volunteer to come to me. The nursery is five minutes from where I live and as soon as we get inside our home she starts screaming until I breastfeed her. I dont even have time to take my handbag off most days as she cries so much once we get inside.
After a breastfeed she is completely back to her normal happy, loving, affectionate self. Does anyone have any experience of this?