To up and leave?

[Birdsoncurtans]

Hi,

I need to ask a question. I’m so up for various answers and honesty.

I have an 8yo and 1yo who I love with all my heart, had my 8yo when I was 17 and had a tough time with PND and other stuff with her dad.

anyway fast forward to now, I’m working I’m a full time student and I look after the kids but j feel like I’m on my own most of the time despite the fact I have a partner. My daughters dad has recently got back in contact with her taking me to court so he can see her but doesn’t want to help me with school runs ect cos he has work, basically he doesn’t want to do anything helpful just have her over the weekends when he’s been completely shit in her life. I have work too but I still get on with it.

I had a baby last year and I had just started uni ( I was on the pill) we were not trying. I was so happy to have her but abit sad because i thought I was able to get on with my career.

anyway I have made it work between me and the kids working and uni but it’s so hard and I am so tierd. My partner is shit but always has something to say about the kids. But doesn’t really help me I do all the HARD work.

what I am trying to ask is, to up and leave the kids with their dads since they’re so prefect and know it all and get on with my career? Is that wrong?

I know it’s selfish but as a women sometimes you have to be.

Sounds like youre going through a really difficult time and everything is a bit on top of you.

You could leave, but you would either still have to help with school run etc or by your own standards be a shit parent.

Co parenting is an option, and i daresay your ex having daughter at weekends is better than nothing. Do you want to leave your current partner? Or just need a break? Who can help alleviate your stress as things stand currently?

@411sleeper I don’t even now. I just feel like since they’re so perfect they can try and juggle everything and also have time for yourself?! I love my children so much they are my life but my career is also so important to me. I don’t think I could actually leave them it’s just how I am feeling.

I just feel like everything gets dumped on me all the hard work then they get all the fun times? I would love to take my 8 year old out for the day but I just don’t have the time. And I miss spending time with her.

lifes so stressful maybe I just need a holiday? 🤣🤣🤣

Totally hear you. Nobody can understand how hard it is being the default parent. It is a full time job. You are doing great, and once uni is over things will get easier cause you will have a job with set hours. Enjoy the summer but dont feel bad about fantasizing about your nee single life if that gets you through!

@411sleeper thank you, I had a good nights sleep and a good think. It’s not for ever and im
workkng so hard hopefully it will all pay off xxxxx