Bloody Father's day

[Gettingbysomehow]

I'm sick to death of being bombarded with Father's day on every single advert, everywhere I go. I never knew my father as he deserted me before I was born, and my stepfather was cruel and violent.
I have no male role models.
My lovely DS's father is a piece of shit who hasn't seen him in years and didn't even bother to send him a birthday gift for his big birthday recently yet here we are getting force fed bloody Fathers Day for a month.
We're both sick to death of it.
Not everyone comes from a happy family - make it stop.

I agree. My father was off before I’d turned ten. Useless jerk.

I also dislike Mother’s Day because my pig brother and idiot father would make a fuss on that day (because even in the 70s there were ads everywhere to prod them) and completely overlook Mum’s birthday, the day that actually mattered to her.

I hate it too. My DC had the most awesome dad but he died.

I haven't seen much thankfully but I don't go to the shops or watch live TV so no ads, worst for me is fathers day cards at school I hate it and feel sorry for my kids and no not every kid has a male role model to do it for instead, so many people don't seem to understand that!

That’s so incthatd what you went through. I dot get why Father’s Day ha become such a big thing. My dad thought Mother’s Day was important but the dad one was just invented by the card companies.

Same here. Rubbish dad and DD's dad rubbish.

I wonder if there should be a requirement for marketing opt-ins for certain events. Mothers Day and Fathers Day for starters.

It all seems like one big celebration of those who are already lucky, that the rest of us have to shove our pain down for a few weeks (double for those of us NC with our mothers) and grin and bear it. If you've got a father to celebrate on Father's Day, you're lucky! Both my parents are still alive but my father fucked off when I was a kid and my mother was abusive so am NC.

Imagine having a Married Parents' Day though, where we were bombarded by how we should celebrate parents who are married, with kids making them gifts at school, even those whose parents are divorced, never married, a dead parent. It would be seen as cruel.

And whose bright idea was it to have Mother's Day first? Every year my STBX "forgets" twice because we're abroad and it's in May here (I only want one celebrated!). So I have to go through being forgotten twice (obviously googling the date and putting it in Google calendar with a reminder hasn't been invented yet), with kids who are confused about what to do and which weekend it is (school make gifts well in advance) and then upset when they've missed it because Daddy didn't help them make me a nice breakfast or something like that. Then up pops fecking Father's Day and I a) can't bear to upset them to get at their dad and b) I want them to learn how to treat someone nicely on a special day and if I don't do that, they won't learn it at home. So there I am helping them organise everything while he basks in the "Dad Glory".

I loved my dad. He died 8 years ago. I miss him terribly still. It can be upsetting when I see others celebrating their dad's and posting about them. But instead I'm glad that others are experiencing having loving and lovely fathers. Should we not celebrate anything because somewhere someone has been unlucky in life?