McMillan, phyllis tuckwell or Marie curie

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Any one has experience with these charities. In honour of my late mum, I would like make donation to a charity related to cancer or palliative care. Anyone has experience with these charities in some way willing to share? 🙏

Unfortunately, I have heard bad things about MacMillan from a few people. I have no experience of the others.

Sorry for your loss. Where they all involved in her care? My choice would be phylis tuckwell as in my experience they did more and as a local, rather than national charity they need the support more and will probably use it better.
I think you can sponsor a day of care which would be a lovely and meaningful thing to do.

Macmillan offered no help when I needed them, didn't even bother returning calls. Marie Curie couldn't help as much as they would've liked because they were struggling to get staff and it was mid-covid but they did send carers when they could and they were always at the end of the phone for support.

As have I, sadly.

Marie Curie were great with my mum , MacMillan not so much.

A colleague has very recently received fantastic end of life care for a close relative from Phyllis Tuckwell - if it was me I'd support a local charity rather than national....

I don’t know about tuckwell.

same as pp- Marie curie were amazing but so overstretched. But they do wonderful work with end of life care.

mcmillan I wouldn’t touch with a barge pole. Jumping on the als challenge and taking away donations from an als charity. They fund “McMillan” nurses in hospitals for a set time, then the nhs has to take over, but the branding is contracted to stay. So a lot of time “McMillan” nurses aren’t funded by them, but then they reap the benefits in fundraising.

personally, we had to ask them to leave and not come back as not only were they useless, they upset my terminally ill relative by asking her how she felt about dying every single visit.

what about a local hospice? Hospices aren’t centrally funded so rely on donations to run. They’re always my go to.

Why don't you go with the charity that helped? When my grandad was poorly/passing away McMillan were amazing

McMillan money gets put in a central pot and then distributed. Some places don’t receive any money for their services as they may not be commissioned in those areas.
marie curie - whichever hospice receives the money keeps it, I’ve not heard of the other option

So sorry for your loss. With my cancer Macmillan provided counselling 6 sessions, Maggies a where now course but by far the best was a little cancer charity called Somethingtolookforwardto.org.uk which provides gifts to people with cancer who provided a week in Cornwall, a night in a hotel and meal etc.

Marie Curie.... My sister in law died in their N London hospice... After she was cremated instead of leaving the bunches of flowers at the crematorium her children took them back to the hospice so people could have flowers by their beds... ♥
My late partner raised money for Macmillan after his wife died. When he sadly was diagnosed with cancer Macmillan wouldn't help him. 💔 💔

The dubious practices that MacMillan use mean I’d not give them bottle tops, let alone cash.

If you can support a local charity I’d do that in your shoes.

My mum died from cancer several years ago now, and we donated to the charity fund of the ward she yo-yo’d in and out of (because she had no nursing or hospice care because of the speed of the disease).

It’s sometimes feels trite to send condolences to those you don’t know, but I wish you peace in your grieving.

I'd go for your local hospice

Thanks everyone
My mum passed in other country and my dad makes donations for the local charity that helped. I just want do something similar here 💐

I gave a one-off donation to Marie Curie after my mother died. I was bombarded with phone calls (nearly every day), not leaving messages and number withheld so I couldn't call them and then calling back to ask me to sign up for a DD. I had to make a formal complaint to get them off my back and since then I haven't given them a penny.

Macmillan are just a money making venture, like the RSPCA. They do very little and don't directly employ nurses once they've given them palliative care training.

Marie Curie provide actual nursing care and have a number of hospices that they run. I have good experiences with them.

The RSPCA need to change their image.

they do a very good job on the legal side, prosecuting offenders etc. but aren’t really an animal “rescue” any more. There are other organisations that do a much better job on that front. However I suspect they are sticking with the saving cuddly puppies image as it brings in more cash than funding court cases.

Having worked for macmillan and see the way they waste money I would steer clear of them . Awful in so many ways which i won't go into here.
I have never heard of Phyllis Tuckwell but generally most hospices seem to be well run, I used to work for a charity and the dedication and level of care was unquestionable. marie curie also a great charity which I can't fault and always hear such good things about.