Not depressed, just bored... anyone else?

[JustBored]

I struggle with feeling 'in a rut' every couple of months. I just find life very mundane. My rut leads me plan something like booking a holiday, a weekend away, a theatre show, a drinking sesh etc. My hobbies have become more 'thrilling' too, I've gone from running to taking flying lessons, just for a buzz.

Due to this, I have a busy life with lots to look forward to. However, it's like I get a quick buzz from these things and then the boredom sets in again. I wish I could be more content and present.

I don't think I'm depressed because I love my DH, like my house, have good friends and family that I confide in, my job is ok etc. However, I think I struggle with the routine of every day life and find it very dull.

Anyone else?

Well mundane things are boring.
What is giving you a rush is the mountain top experiences. But no one can live on a mountain top.

How do you live in the valley? No I idea. I have so much to be grateful for but I find the everyday mundane stuff boring!

Sorry can’t be more help!

I start every day sitting on the garden with a cup off coffee. I'm there right now.

It's not exciting but it certainly helps with feeling present.

It's all about really appreciating the little things.

DH was planning a food menu last night, saying we’ll have X tomorrow, X Saturday, then on Sunday we can have…. And I just though ‘then it’s Monday and it all starts all over again.’
My life is like Groundhog Day.

Normal day, let me be aware
of the treasure that you are.
let me learn from you, love you,
bless you before we depart.
Let me not pass you by in quest
of some rare and perfect tomorrow.
let me hold you while I may,
for it may not be always so. one day
I shall dig my nails into the earth,
or bury my face in the pillow,
or stretch myself tart,
or raise my hands
to the sky and want, more
than all the world, your return

As you say, enjoying everyday life is a very fortunate state to be in. We all need some things to look forward to but it is not healthy to find normal life a low.

Feeling bored is a common symptom of depression - why are you so sure it is not depression causing this?

I recommend practicing mindfulness and living in the moment.

I learnt to enjoy cleaning the bathroom!

Oh @wildfirewonder I'd like to train myself to enjoy cleaning the bathroom!

Also, the coffee idea is a good one. I make a tea and watch the news some mornings and find myself in a much better mood those days.

I am aware I'm so lucky and have a good life. I am so privileged to have a routine and no chaos or worry in my everyday. I just wish I'd be more bloody grateful of that!

@BlahBlahBlerg this is exactly it! I'm just like oh Monday will be here soon and we do the exact same week, AGAIN.

@wildfirewonder I don't think I'm depressed because I do enjoy many aspects of my life and the people around me. I can function normally, have a good laugh throughout the day. There's just this near-constant restlessness, which makes me think it is more a boredom issue.

When I was a teenager, I told my mum all I wanted from life was to be happy. And that, if I ever married, or had a relationship, I wanted it to be a happy one.

She scoffed at me and told me that no one was happy. And relationships weren't supposed to make you happy (more a necessary evil I suppose) 🤷🏻‍♀️

I have always striven to be 'happy'. Or rather content. And I am. My life isn't great or particularly good. I'm not privileged. I'm not financially comfortable. I've had a lot of trauma - am NC with a parent and divorced after a dreadful marriage. I've been homeless twice. But I live in the present. And I can honestly say, I might not have security but I am content.

When I was in my 20s, someome gave me a copy of the Tao of Pooh - Taoist principles through the wisdom of Winnie the Pooh essentially! There was a paragraph in there about people getting annoyed at being woken up early by the birds singing. WtP preferred to look at it as the birds singing about what a beautiful day it is and how glad they are to be alive. And another one about people engaged with 'busyness' rather than just stopping and smelling the flowers essentially.

Sounds silly but that has popped into my head many times over the years.

I wonder whether something like that might reframe things in your mind a bit.

Because the bottom line is, most of everyone's lives are filled with the same old same old. 'And then it's Monday again' happens to us all!