Sister has blocked me

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So my sister and me have never got on she’s just a really nasty person always has a go at me and tries to cut me out of everything. Recently she’s blocked me from contacting my niece everyone else in the family can still contact her but me. Am I wrong to be annoyed that no one sticking up for me they’re all just keeping quiet to keep the peace?

It’s kinds of difficult to have a decent relationship with a child if you have a difficult one with their parent.

Can you see your niece when she is with grandparents?

we’re you close to your niece?

I blocked my sister as she’s a nasty piece of work.
Also blocked niece and nephew.

Apple never falls far from the tree as they say.

Don’t know what to say about your situation it’s likely you’ll not have the same relationship with your niece going forward.

That's impossible to answer without knowing the full story (and I'm not asking). There's obviously a long back story if its been going on for years. She might be saying you're the nasty one and that's why she's blocked you from her and your DN's life. There may be many reasons why people don't want to get involved. Maybe they've tried in the past but now they just think it's been going on far too long and are bored of it now.

That’s the thing there is no ‘full story’ my niece has just got her first phone and I’m the only one blocked. My sister still turns up to events like my daughters birthday party with my niece and I do still see her when we have family days out. My sister just ignores anytime I question why I’m blocked. I helped out with my niece a lot when she was a baby and we’ve always been really close. My DN is completely unaware that I am blocked from her phone I don’t want to cause any trouble between her and her mam so haven’t told her the reason I don’t reply to her messages is because I actually don’t receive them because her mam has blocked me off her phone.

Very close to her I helped loads when she was a baby

Tough one, do nothing for a while. Send a card in the post perhaps? As somebody whose mother isn't speaking to them but yet is ''all over'' my daughter, I think the route to a relationship with a niece is to tolerate whatever it is about your sibling that you can't bear. Staple gun on a smile and fake insouciance, detachment, acceptance........ I know it 's not easy. My mother has driven me crazy with her lack of empathy and the rest of the family back her up and shame me for being hurt. It's been hell. My mother is so determined not to lose my daughter but will do jack shit to meet me half way.

how can she ignore you if you say to her directly 'why am i blocked on DN phone '

dont let her ignore you, keep asking until she gives you an answer.

if you still meet up and she is happy to bring her daughter is it something to do with messages or content you have sent to DS/DN in the past? do you have questionable social media posts etc that she is wanting to shield DN from?

I’ve asked her to her face & sent her messages she’s seen the messages and just doesn’t respond. I’ve been blocked since my DN first got her phone for Christmas so I’ve not actually ever had the chance to message her so it can’t be an issue with any previous messages. I don’t really post anything on social media at all anyway.

I asked my sister once, why she didn't like me, cue wide eyed innocent reply of I don't know what you're talking about.
I may be a tad biased but it sounds like you need to step back and accept you are not even on her radar.
Blood family means fuck all in my opinion.

Have you posted about this before?

It isn't appropriate to have sm contact with a child when you aren't on speaking terms with their parent. I hope this can be resolved though, it must be very upsetting for you and it sounds as though your sister blows hot and cold.

Given you do still get to see your niece and she is, I’m guessing by the phone, not very little, then I don’t think it’s worth overthinking this.

just maintain your relationship when you see her. I wouldn’t bother addressing the phone issue.

I’m not blocked from my sister and we’re civil to eachother when we do rarely see eachother. It’s just my DN she won’t allow me to talk to or her talk to me