Dd12 is due to start upper school in September. For the last 2 or so years she has been having significant emotional difficulties and extreme anxiety. We were constantly getting declined by camhs for any support and school not that much help. She is missing so much school due to panic attacks and eventually we went to a&e for help and she was finally accepted by camhs. She has had a few sessions with a support worker who has suggested asd. We have filled in screeners for that and just waiting to hear back. It is very obvious to us now that that is the root cause though. She is due to begin with a new therapist next week still with camhs.
Our issue at the moment is how anxious she is surrounding the transition to upper school. She has a transition day this month and she will not cope with this if she is not with a friend and even with.a friend I am worried how she will be. I contacted her new head of year and asked for a discussion about transition and briefly explained the situation and received a very dismissive reply and no real information. I then contacted her head of year at her current school, who I am in regular contact with anyway, and explained my worries and said she needs extra support with the transition. Again I received a dismissive reply and just highlighted the transition process which I am already aware of. I feel like I am constantly fobbed off. For the transition day I just want to know she will not be in a class without a friend and what she will be doing for the day so I can prepare her but they just will not give me that. I don't think I'm being unreasonable? In the meantime I have a daughter who in just the last day has had 2 extreme panic attacks where she hasn't been able to breathe and scratched herself until she has bled. I have told the school this but had no reply. I honestly just don't know what to do.