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Not doing anything wrong but would you expect some tact?

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Preps · 08/06/2023 17:48

A colleague has been off work sick for almost 6 months. She was assaulted at work (by a client) and it's not surprising she isn't finding it easy to return, although employer has really tried with support and counselling etc. The expectation is that she probably won't return, but she'll use her full sick pay entitlement first.

Although employer has put some cover in place, they can't replace her permanently until/unless she leaves and temp cover is proving difficult to source/unreliable so colleagues are having to pickup some of the slack.

Meanwhile, her social media feed, which many colleagues are party to, is full of all the wonderful ways she's using this time. She's currently on her third holiday in the sun since her absence began.

She is/was well liked and there was tremendous sympathy for her when this all happened, but that is wearing thin. No one expects her to stay indoors for her whole absence and logically everyone knows that getting out and about will be helping her recovery, but would you expect a bit more tact with the posting?

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Preps · 08/06/2023 17:50

I never have any colleague on my SM, I don't add them until I leave Grin but she has added them so knows they're seeing all this while they're working.

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Hannahsbananas · 08/06/2023 17:51

Yes, although I’m probably a lone voice in this…
I never understand the “just because you’re too ill to work doesn’t mean you’re too ill to go on holiday / play tennis / go on the piss” mentality at all.

Knittedfairies · 08/06/2023 17:51

Maybe, but I suspect people rarely post the B side of whatever is going on in their lives; you don't really know how she is coping with the aftermath of the assault.

determinedtomakethiswork · 08/06/2023 17:52

Well if she's struggling why bang on about what a good time she's having?

Dacadactyl · 08/06/2023 17:53

I can see both sides of this.

In her shoes I wouldn't be posting.

But I certainly wouldn't voice that to any of my other colleagues, nor talk about her behind her back, its just not my style.

Rainbowsandfairies · 08/06/2023 17:56

Dacadactyl · 08/06/2023 17:53

I can see both sides of this.

In her shoes I wouldn't be posting.

But I certainly wouldn't voice that to any of my other colleagues, nor talk about her behind her back, its just not my style.

Totally agree . She's been assaulted at work and is entitled to do what she wants during her time off BUT probably best not to post it on social media!

Divebar2021 · 08/06/2023 17:56

I guess they’re entitled to use the time as they wish but it shouldn’t come as a big surprise if her colleagues are a little miffed when they’re picking up the slack.

SirenSays · 08/06/2023 18:00

99% of social media is people posting their highlight reel. Just because you can't see her struggling it doesn't mean that she isn't. I'd advise anyone looking and not liking what they're seeing to stop following her online.

Preps · 08/06/2023 18:01

No one's suggesting she's not struggling, but they do know she's away on holiday again while they're covering her work.

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