Baby is 9 weeks and it's still not getting easier

[hopelessinlondon]

I posted about 7 weeks in overwhelm and panic about my newborn.
It's still not getting easier.
It's near impossible to balance the babies needs with my school aged childs. Everyday is stressful aligning the babies feeds with the school runs.
Baby is generally fussy and won't sleep independently during the day so even when it's just the baby with me it's hard.

I don't know why I'm posting. When I posted before lots of people said 8 weeks would be a turning point but I still feels as lost.

Just after a hand hold really

It didn’t for me until 12 months. I found working out when to wake to feed and change before school really helpful. In the end I did all school runs with the baby in the sling as it was much easier.

Thank you
I just still feel like I'm trying to survive each day rather than enjoying them or thriving.
And am absolutely dreading the 6w holiday which is so sad as my older child is bloody lovely and would have been looking forward to it otherwise :(

Do you have anyone that can help or support you? Unfortunately it can be tough, really tough but you are not alone. Don't put yourself under pressure just take a day at a time. As other OP said d it can be months some babies are very difficult. Reach out for some practical support abs sending a hug x

Don't focus on getting to a certain point, all babies are different and it's so disheartening when you reach an 'easier' milestone and things don't actually get any easier. One day, your baby will sleep independently!

I know I shouldn't have a particular time in mind, but I just need some hope and motivation to work towards I think.

I also feel stupid as the way I'm going on you'd think I was the first person to ever have a second baby 😂 which I am obviously not. So some of it must just be me being acopic, anxious and probably a bit of a control freak. I have a great DH and my DM and DMIL generally both help an afternoon a week.

It's not true to say things are NO better than before, they are, I just want it to feel achievable and not a struggle one day soon.

Ooo I got told eight weeks on here too! Eight weeks came and eight weeks went. For me four months was a huge turning point. My high needs Dc became almost easy overnight. Hang on in there. It will get better.

Thank you

I'm trying to remind myself how far I've come since the first time I posted in week 3

Sorry 12 weeks! It was still survival at first but more manageable. By 12 months were in lockdown so no time pressures.

I think I posted on your previous thread. I’ll say again what I said there. Let go of the idea of a ‘turning point’. DS was an extremely difficult newborn/baby who didn’t sleep, was a pain to feed, cried a lot and hated being put down. If I’m being honest, the majority of the baby months were harder than I expected or my friends experienced with their own DC. He weirdly became an exceptionally good natured, easy toddler at about 15 months, when he could walk and talk basically. So for me it didn’t get easy until over a year. But with hindsight I can say each month that passed became more tolerable. Month 6 was definitely easier than month 0 and month 12 was easier than month 6. It was a gradual change though as opposed to a definite turning point. Hope it starts getting easier for you.

I'm at 14 weeks and if anything its harder, have a 3 year old so feel your pain

Thank you