Randomly hit on by a stranger

[Milkycoffee2sugars]

NC for this
I was coming out of the shop this morning making my way back to my car, a man was getting out of his car and asked me if the cash machine at the shop was working, I said sorry I've no idea. Then he said I look beautiful and asked if he could have my number, I declined as I'm very happily married and told him so, he just said ah that's a shame and drove off.
For context I'm a very plain looking 45 year old but I will admit I was very flattered. Nothing like that has ever happened to me before

What, he wanted have a chat about tariffs?

I wouldn't have said he was necessarily pervy for asking for your number. If id liked the look of him (and his overall vibe) and I was single, I mightve even given it to him.

I would've probably liked his gumption! Nowt wrong with it in my mind.

Charming! Maybe he just fancied her?!

Some of you are weird.

How did he treat her like a prostitute?! All he did was ask for her number. The comments on this post are unbelievable

What she said!

I going with he thought you looked beautiful. Asked a question, got a polite answer and left.

PUA stuff is like 15 years ago.

Hahahaha! I didn’t even realise that was a thing. What a bunch of saddoes 😂😂😂

He didn't offer her money for sex. Why piss on OPs Chips.
I'd take it as a compliment OP, if it made you feel good no harm done.

Gosh, these replies are pretty harsh!!

A man saw you and thought you looked beautiful (which I'm sure you are). Asked for your number, accepted being declined gracefully, and then left. I would take that as a compliment and it would put a smile on my face too!

Have any of the posters that replied bitchily, considered they are the ones putting down the OP, not the man in the post? Saying of course he must have just been trying his PUA techniques is horrible, like she can't be worth more than that. Some women are so nasty to other women, why? And God forbid any man should respectfully approach a woman and tell her she looks nice, with no expectation back. I do feel that some women on Mumset would just have every male shot on sight

Why are people suggesting she wants to be treated like a prostitute because someone said something nice to her, that's so awful. Shame on you.

You’re all bonkers. OP, it’s fine to feel flattered and there’s no reason to assume he didn’t simply fancy you.

Wow some of these replies 😳
I didn't feel like I was being treated as a prostitute I just thought he was giving me a compliment! He wasn't pushy or anything I declined to give him my number and that was that, Jesus!

some women on here are right bullies with harsh comments .
Take it as a compliment its a win .
I had a bloke say sort of the same thing to me once I laughed it of and went home no biggie .
dont mean im unhappy with my husband .

People are being way over the top about this.

I would take it as a compliment too, it wasn't exactly creepy. Back in the day before dating apps, a lot of people used to chat up people like this.

If he did it in a night club no one would say it's creepy.

I’m older now and I miss the compliments. Take it in the spirit it was meant. A few years ago a woman with her husband in Tesco told me my make up looked amazing (shoulda gone to Specsavers) but she wasn’t “hitting” on me. It was a nice thing to say and put a spring in my step

Oh please 🙄. Get a grip.

I agree it's not flattering at all. Some men have no idea.

I wouldn't day I have this 'all the time' but I definitely get chatted up a few times a month. I'm 48.

Most recent one was last week when i was arriving at band practice and I could see a man sitting in his car watching me. As I got close, he got out of the car and asked me if I thought he'd parked ok or was likely to get a ticket. IDGAF!

Then he asked about my band. I said I couldn't talk. So he told me I was really cool and asked for my phone number. I said I wasn't going to give him my number and walked away. This was outside a practice studio in a back street of a city. They're not the nicest of places and men should know better.

Besides, has anyone really ever given their number to a complete random in the street??

As for those saying it's a compliment. It's not. Maybe it feels like it is if it doesn't happen often or it's been a while but it's really not a compliment. It can feel quite intimidating. And it's annoying.

It must be a curse being that attractive that you're hit on multiple times monthly!

🤣 I'm not that attractive at all!

But that's what a lot of men are like if you go to places where men are 🤷🏻‍♀️

A lot of my friends find the same and were just ordinary women in our 40s and 50s.

@Tenacioustattle

Milkycoffee2sugars
No it's definitely not something my husband would do

So why would you be flattered by a man doing something to you that you knew your husband would never dream of doing to another woman if he was single.

and what about your father, brother, other men you respect… would you imagine them doing this to a random woman?"

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This is the test in my mind.

If you are happy for your father, brothers and husband to do this if they were single to a random woman then fine take it as a compliment.

But if you would disapprove of men you respect behaving in this way if they were single then why would you think it is acceptable from a random stranger - double standards ?

You've really never been chatted up in the street before even when younger?

So much jealously. Maybe it was legitimate, I'd feel flattered and not cynical. How else are you meant to meet someone if you don't like bars or dating apps.

Absolutely. Maybe you were looking especially beautiful that day. Nasty, jealous people on this thread who have obviously never been complimented by a stranger before. I've had it happen often and I find it flattering

When did the world become this bonkers? He didn’t ask her for a shag nor does it sound like he thought she was a prostitute. He tried to chat her up. She declined because she’s happily married. He left. Take the compliment OP.