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Not having the drive/sticking power for hobbies and arty stuff

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LawnmowerBlues · 03/06/2023 12:20

Anyone else feel like this?

Just something I muse on (and beat myself up about) from time to time.

I generally feel pretty inspired by life, and get excited about little ideas, stories, fanciful visions and things. People say they see me as "arty" and I also enjoy music and singing. But I don't have the drive to channel any of that into a creative hobby. I don't think I have the attention span, or the self-belief, come to that. When I've tried various hobbies I've never got past the casual amateur level and I can't get excited about the technical details. I love reading and when I read something great I have this reflexive reaction that I should try to write something similar, but I don't actually want to. By this point in my life I have no illusions that I'm an artistic genius waiting to be discovered, but it seems a bit of a waste. Or should I channel my enthusiasm and daydreaming into making everyday life a bit more special? And just appreciating art without feeling this weird guilt about not being creative?

That's a bit of a ramble (and a total first world problem - not the biggest issue in my life, believe me!) but I wondered if anyone else had felt this way, and if the feeling went away, or if you finally found something to channel it all into!

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PositiveParasite · 03/06/2023 12:23

I relate to this a bit but what’s wrong with enjoying lots of different things?

Why is committing to any individual activity and achieving proficiency in it such a big deal?

LawnmowerBlues · 03/06/2023 12:31

PositiveParasite · 03/06/2023 12:23

I relate to this a bit but what’s wrong with enjoying lots of different things?

Why is committing to any individual activity and achieving proficiency in it such a big deal?

Yeah, you may well be right! I think there's something deep down I need to let go of, probably some pressure from childhood or God knows what. I do enjoy just doing things in a group where it's just about everyone taking part for fun, and I can let myself be happily mediocre or rubbish!

Sometimes I do get specific ideas that I'd love to palm off on someone else to realise... If I could just stand around spouting ideas and let talented people pick them up and make something of them, that would be ideal! 😅

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thecatsthecats · 03/06/2023 13:01

PositiveParasite · 03/06/2023 12:23

I relate to this a bit but what’s wrong with enjoying lots of different things?

Why is committing to any individual activity and achieving proficiency in it such a big deal?

This.

And if you do get even mildly proficient, I can guarantee that people will suggest that you can sell them on Etsy - because obviously, the only worth to creative activity is to make money out of it!

So long as you enjoy doing it, who cares?

Staticgirl · 03/06/2023 15:05

Maybe you're an explorer. Have fun exploring all the different hobbies, arts etc. One may well feel like home but if not you'll have tried lots of fun things and maybe met a few nice people too.

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