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Is anyone else's partner really moody? fed up of it

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RustyFaridabad · 03/06/2023 12:00

My DH has always been really moody since I have known him but the "good" times so to speak were more so it wasn't as much of a problem..

Now 15 years and 3dc later, he's become even more withdrawn and moody. He hardly has a conversation with me. Sometimes he does and it's so noticeable and really nice when he does. I try to talk about work, weather, kids, plans for the weekend, bloody anything and most responses are one word answers or just completely ignores me. I sometimes feel I'm just doing the Spanish inquisition and not having a conversation.

He never socialises with anyone. No friends, family. He just about goes to his family events if they are close like a wedding but doesn't go to any on my side.

It's now getting to a point where Im feeling really fed up and so lonely. If I didn't have my kids, I'd literally have noone to speak to. I notice other people's partners and how they chat, have a laugh with them and it makes me so sad.

If I ask him, is anything the matter. The answer is always no. If I ask him why he's withdrawing or not talking he says I'm not, leave me alone. He has never once said yeah sorry just not feeling great or I just want to be left alone for a bit. If he just acknowledged it, I would be able to deal with it much better. At the moment I just feel like I'm being paranoid and this isn't right but he insists it's me with a problem with him.

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HoldingTheDoor · 03/06/2023 12:03

It's definitely him not you and you deserve better. Do you really want to spend the rest of your life like this?

ilovelamp82 · 03/06/2023 12:14

That sounds hard and like it would really grind you down over time. There is far more to life than feeling invisible to the people that are supposed to love you. It's also not a great example of a relationship for the kids. If he's not willing to even acknowledge it then he's obviously not going to change it. Then I guess it's up to you whether this is how you want to spend the rest of your life.

RustyFaridabad · 03/06/2023 13:30

I feel a bit stupid tbh why I stayed and had kids with him even know I knew he was like this. I've not had a good childhood, dysfunctional parent relationship amongst other things and I never saw what a healthy relationship looked like.

So I get so taken aback when I see the way other partners are like with their spouses / kids / family and feel envious. I never wanted anyone rich, good looking. I just wanted someone who was kind to me.

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