DD overheard her dad speaking dirty...wwyd?

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DD, 15, overheard a conversation in the open plan kitchen at her dad's house when she walked into their bit of the space as they were all getting ready to go out together. The below wasn't actively done for her to hear, thank goodness, but imo not enough care was taken to make sure the DC, including one much younger, didn't overhear.

Girlfriend said: I am going to get the pink cupcake at the cafe
DD's father said: I've got something pink you can put in your mouth if you want?

And they both laughed. DD is obviously mortified but didn't feel able to say anything and we aren't on good terms so I can't say anything to him. I think this is grim, but is my general dislike of him making me feel like this is worse than it is?

@PinotPony Wand? Is that a vibrator - god I'd be mortified if any of my DC saw anything like that. Perhaps I belong in the 1950s...

I haven't said she is traumatised, she isn't, she is embarrassed and thinks it is DISGUSTING in caps.

There's always some sort "that's what she said" dialogue running in our house. We all roll our eyes and carry on with the day.

No, she isn't sheltered at all. I think she just finds him embarrassing more generally and this was the latest thing he has, unwittingly tbf to him, irritated her by saying.

So she comes home after a couple of days and just moans and bitches about him and his partner?

I want to believe you told her to stop being so unkind, but given your obvious dislike of him and the over reaction to a daft comment I suspect you encourage the behaviour.

You have worded it a bit so it sounds like he’s actually been dirty talking during sex, or having a and whilst having phone sex

*wank

@Whinge You have no idea how I parent and how has she been unkind by being grossed out by something she overheard?

I have repeatedly said I don't for one second think he did it on purpose which is what I told her. My response was something along the lines of "Ewww, well I'm sure he didn't do it on purpose" - hope that passes your scrutiny.

Sorry OP but that made me laugh, both the comment itself and the poor DD overhearing. Like a scene from a bad comedy. Totally understand the cringe factor for DD though 😫

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Sorry but I think at 15 years old your child should be able to cringe and move on, yes it's abit gross but so is seeing your parents kiss etc...

I would ask the daughter not to pass on anything to you about their relationship unless she is really worried or concerned - if it's just 'eww Gross' gossip she should discuss that with her mates not you- it's not good for either of you to have you knowing tit bits of your exes love life