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How can I help my mother?

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onetwothreenc · 30/05/2023 22:08

My mother had a very traumatic childhood. It's affected her whole life inevitably and continues to. She's sought counselling multiple times in her life and is very conscious of rationalising what happened, but this has never helped her to actually come to terms with it the emotional side. I've suggested EMDR as she feels (and I agree) that further talking therapy would be of limited benefit.

I just feel sad that she's still so traumatised by everything. She is such a kind hearted and thoughtful person who has never let what happened to her make her bitter and twisted and certainly didn't deserve what happened to her. It breaks my heart to think that she could reach the end of her life having never felt peace and happiness, and I really want to help her to be happy but I don't know how.

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onetwothreenc · 30/05/2023 22:41

Bumping :(

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Thistlelass · 31/05/2023 00:10

I am almost 66 and I can relate to your mother's story. I wanted to suggest Reiki or other healing therapies as they can leave you in a very good space. I would encourage your mum to take care of herself in all sorts of ways. To love herself and get to know herself as much as she can. This can include her choices in clothes, hair and makeup. Then she could maybe explore topics and hobbies in which she is interested x

AtrociousCircumstance · 31/05/2023 00:18

I’ve known people in your dear mum’s position find solace in the church, but maybe that’s not her thing?

Perhaps a woman’s group, a healing circle of some kind?

EMDR is a great suggestion. And having a loving daughter like you must also help her so so much ❤️

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