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Abusive ex child passport

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gallina · 30/05/2023 17:11

Sorry I wasn't sure where to post this but desperately need some

it's now 7 years since we split and he has contact ds (14), mostly telephone calls son visits once every 6 weeks maybe longer. I am the resident parent although both names on birth certificate. We were never married.

He wants to take him abroad, which is fine. He wants to renew sons passport and me pay half and has asked me to transfer the money but I want to check a few things first.

should it be me who applies for the passport renewal since ds lives with me?

Does my sons passport need to have my address since he lives here? I'm concerned my ex will try and put it to his home address if he's the one who applies for a renewal.

Thanks in advance

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Thesunwillcomeoutverysoon · 30/05/2023 17:13

Imo leave it all to ex. Does he have a copy of dc's birth certificate? Will he pay and get photos done etc? Not your circus really.

NeverDropYourMooncup · 30/05/2023 17:13

'Do him a favour' and order and pay for it yourself.

It'll be worth the extra cost.

Gingergirl70 · 30/05/2023 17:17

If you're worried, just go ahead and do it yourself, in your own address and ask him to transfer his half to you.

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gallina · 30/05/2023 17:34

Yes apparently he has a copy of birth certificate which he paid for.

I have the old passport. I'd prefer to do it myself but don't have the money to pay for it in full at the moment, I'm on zero maternity pay now and living off savings. He wants to do it this weekend apparently and is hounding my to pay my half. I just don't know where I'd stand then if he gets it in his address

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MintJulia · 30/05/2023 17:48

At 14 the passport will be your dc's. It doesn't matter who your ex puts as address. Your dc can cross it out if he wishes.

I'd tell him you don't have the money at the moment and leave him to it.

Offer to pay half in future, when you can afford it, and want to take dc on holiday.

CrumbliestCrumble · 30/05/2023 17:51

Yes he can apply for one. And get sent to his address. My ex did. Then gave to me after his holiday

Thesunwillcomeoutverysoon · 30/05/2023 18:06

You could always report it lost after the holiday...

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gallina · 30/05/2023 18:29

Ok I'm just panicking a little incase he won't give it to me when I take my son on holiday. Or when the time comes for a provisional license for example, and the addresses would be different

Thanks for the advice, this would be the first time having to think of a passport since kicking him out 7 years ago

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EarlofShrewsbury · 30/05/2023 18:36

They're is no address on a passport. There will be a record of the address it was sent to that might come up in questions if you lose it and need to replace it but there is no actual address in the passport.

He will need to send the old passport off to the passport office, or you could do that once the application goes and he can give you the address it needs to be sent.

As you have no issue physically giving him the passport for the holiday it doesn't really matter what address it gets sent to.

EarlofShrewsbury · 30/05/2023 18:37

There not they're, obviously 🙄

Fandabedodgy · 30/05/2023 19:00

Address isn't on the passport so its not really an issue.

CatsOnTheChair · 30/05/2023 19:22

The address is just used for delivery.
There is no address printed in a passport.

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gallina · 30/05/2023 19:48

Oh ok. That's put my mind at ease. Thank you guys

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