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What job for bright but lacks focus ds?

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OnBoardTheHeartOfGold · 30/05/2023 09:17

I've had teachers comment and say that ds is really bright but I also get the comments that he's too chatty, disruptive (that's stopped now) and distracted.
He can focus when he has to (under stress) and then does really well but generally, he coasts along an average keel and sometimes does very badly.
I've read about adhd and he probably does tick a few boxes but I'm not too worried about it. I tick quite a few too.

He's doing his GCSEs next year, then has to think of a levels. He gets a bit upset when asked what he might want to do because he doesn't have a clue. No idea at all.
I know there's time but I'd love to be able to make some suggestions to him that he could research and think about and that might even spark an interest.
He's good at essay type subjects and does well in maths and science if he studies. Not so keen on languages.

If you have a child that's similar, what did they end up doing?

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RoseRobot · 30/05/2023 09:23

Start by asking (and observing) what he loves to do. Does he, at school, enjoy sciences or humanities, languages or practical classes such as art and tech best? Suggest he chooses three A levels that he most enjoys.

What does he most enjoy in his spare time? Might he be entrepreneurial, rather than a more typical employee-type personality?

There are lots of ways for ADHD people to thrive in the work place but most of them aren't typical. My ASD/ADHD son has never held down a 9-5 minimum wage job in his life - you know, those jobs that are supposed to teach them all the valuable work skills they need: punctuality, customer service etc. I used to really fret about that until I discovered he was earning more than I do from buying rare items in sales and selling them online abroad. He is now a private buyer for a few international collectors. They trust him. He can pootle around a sale, which he loves doing anyway, package up a rare item carefully and earn over a hundred pounds profit for half a day's work. I've stopped nagging him to look for bar work. He does things his own way and it works for him.

RoseRobot · 30/05/2023 09:25

Incidentally, now he's leaving uni, he's been offered a few internships by the sales house owners who recognise he is a knowledgable and serious buyer and he's also palled up with someone who does what he does and they are considering setting up their own buying and selling team as a small business.

lljkk · 30/05/2023 09:50

the world is still his oyster.

He could do... sales, tech, engineering, events planning, hospitality, law, business... A bit distracted sounds like most teen boys, tbh

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