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user1310910 · 29/05/2023 18:28

Hello everybody, I'm new user of this forum. I just wanted to share with you my problem and wanted to hear your opinions..
So I'm texting with a guy that I have been having crush on for years.. Recently he started to like my Instagram stories (He has never done it before) He also replied on my story and now we're texting. Due to his latest steps I believe he has an interest in me. The problem is that it takes him very long time to respond. I know he was busy yesterday evening, becuase he had to go to the hospital. Today he had very importnat examination.. But when he finally replies It's never a dry response. I think if he had a serious interest in me and liked me he would find a free time or an excuse to get back to me. Am I paranoid? I feel really stupid but you can't even imagine how much i like him. I just I really hope he likes me. What do you think?

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Wineismybestfriend · 29/05/2023 18:33

Ask him if he’s free for a coffee/few drinks one weekend. You’ll then have your answer!

go for it OP!

Newmnname10 · 29/05/2023 18:37

OP, you’ll get a mixed bag of replies because people have different expectations.
Personally, I would not be worried that he doesn’t respond straight away. As you have said, he is busy. He may also not be in the habit of responding instantly, or may he be able to do so.

This initial part of getting to know each other can be a lovely time. Personally, if a guy was as keen as you it would put me off him. Just slow down, don’t have expectations and see how it goes.

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user1310910 · 29/05/2023 18:37

Thanks! I would really like to do that but I don't know if it's appropriate actaully, because When we met 3 years ago We both had a crush on each other but then he pulled away. So I understood it as a rejection. Some time has passed by and things might be different now but I have no Idea. I wish it was like that, I just don't want to sound desperate or something.

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TheSnowyOwl · 29/05/2023 18:37

I agree that if he was really interested then he would be quicker to respond and make it clear.

Newmnname10 · 29/05/2023 18:42

user1310910 · 29/05/2023 18:37

Thanks! I would really like to do that but I don't know if it's appropriate actaully, because When we met 3 years ago We both had a crush on each other but then he pulled away. So I understood it as a rejection. Some time has passed by and things might be different now but I have no Idea. I wish it was like that, I just don't want to sound desperate or something.

Ok, but he is choosing to message with you now, so that’s a good sign!

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user1310910 · 29/05/2023 18:42

@TheSnowyOwl yeah, that's what I'm thinking. I respect his busy time and priorities but still If he was really into me It wouldn't take that long to respond

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MaryJean87 · 29/05/2023 20:07

Some people aren't big on sending lots of messages but I think you should go with your gut instinct. If you feel that he's not as into it as you from his actions, then you're probably right.

GoodChat · 29/05/2023 20:13

Just ask to meet up. Then you'll know.

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