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Friend regifting expensive gift

66 replies

EachandEveryone · 28/05/2023 20:29

I dont know why Im annoyed. Im probably wrong. We bought a gift for our friend it was£130 and it broke down after three months. Luckily John Lewis were able to refund it and we bought a replacement. Our friend has decided it was a nice gift but doesnt want it anymore (Im deliberately being vague but its not needed anymore) she’d rather have the money. The second company we bought the replacement from has a very good return policy so our friend has ended up with the money from the original item plus the replacement gift which is still in its box. So not exactly regifting but I suppose that is what she will do with it as its surplus to requirements🙂

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BillyNoM8s · 28/05/2023 21:05

pippinsleftleg · 28/05/2023 21:03

can you tell us the retailer as I’d like to buy from them in future!

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😂indeed

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EachandEveryone · 28/05/2023 21:06

That ship has sailed a long time ago, it would be useless to me. It would be amazing for someone else though.

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RoseAdage · 28/05/2023 21:06

pippinsleftleg · 28/05/2023 21:03

can you tell us the retailer as I’d like to buy from them in future!

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Amazon does this sometimes but not on things for £130!

ttcat37 · 28/05/2023 21:06

HarrietJet · 28/05/2023 20:55

She then decided she didn’t want it, contacted the second shop and they refunded it but didn’t require the item returned
I'm pretty sure that didn't actually happen! Op is very confused.

Amazon do this all the time. They sent DH an expensive electrical (about £150) in the wrong colour. He tried to return it but they said keep it and refunded him.

CoreyTaylorsSoggyTshirt · 28/05/2023 21:07

EachandEveryone · 28/05/2023 21:06

That ship has sailed a long time ago, it would be useless to me. It would be amazing for someone else though.

If you think your friend will regift it then someone else will get the use out of it.

SummerSimmer · 28/05/2023 21:08

It wouldn’t bother me but it obviously does you so could you ask for the gift back? She has the monetary value and you can do whatever with the gift.

Freezylap · 28/05/2023 21:11

Lakeland also do this sometimes. If she told them it was broken they might not have asked for it back and just refunded.

wetpebbles · 28/05/2023 21:13

Amazon have done this for me when the seller has had a no return policy

Chickapee · 28/05/2023 21:15

Yes I think if someone had given me a gift and I had a bit of a windfall whereby I ended up with the gift and he money... I can see why she wouldn't give the gift back to you if you also couldn't use it. I suppose she wouldn't give you the money as this was a replacement for the gift she can't use.

My guess is it's a breast pump for some reason.

anyway did she tell you this and did she say what she would so with the item?

BlameItOnTheGoose · 28/05/2023 21:19

OP I understand the fact pattern but confused about what's bothering you.

You acknowledge that the gift is "not needed anymore" so she's stuck with something she can't use or doesn't want. What exactly would you like her to do with it? Are you saying you are annoyed by the prospect of her re-gifting it?

HarrietJet · 28/05/2023 21:21

EachandEveryone · 28/05/2023 20:59

Actually one online retailer does this alot. They can afford to.

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They can all afford to. It's just not a business model many adopt, for obvious reasons...

Ulookgood · 28/05/2023 21:24

EachandEveryone · 28/05/2023 20:57

Yes spot on! I know its now out of my hands but I would love for that gift to be passed on as it was a great useful thing to have and its brand new. The second company obviously give good customer service 😃

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Looks like second company won't be in business for long. Ask her to give you the item back as it is not useful for her. Also a bit weird she took the money but also kept the gift.

pinkunicorns54 · 28/05/2023 21:28

I'm guessing a coffee machine 😂

AlwaysGinPlease · 28/05/2023 21:29

Some " friend" she is, she sounds like a grabby and ungrateful cow and she would no longer be my friend.

JetBlackSteed · 28/05/2023 21:38

I'd ask your friend for the gift back, given that she already has the money instead. Then you can sell it as second hand but brand new unused, or regift it.
Friend is CF if she doesn't.

CoreyTaylorsSoggyTshirt · 28/05/2023 21:41

JetBlackSteed · 28/05/2023 21:38

I'd ask your friend for the gift back, given that she already has the money instead. Then you can sell it as second hand but brand new unused, or regift it.
Friend is CF if she doesn't.

Under the circumstances its no cheekier for the friend to keep it than for the op to ask for it back.

Either friend gets an added birthday gift, or op has benefitted by effectively not paying for a gift as she either the item or the cash from the sale of the item.

Mummyoflittledragon · 28/05/2023 22:00

I wouldn’t be buying her more gifts in a hurry.

ThisJenistheInternet · 28/05/2023 22:02

pinkunicorns54 · 28/05/2023 21:28

I'm guessing a coffee machine 😂

I was picturing one of those baby bottle making machines.

OrchidOrchard · 28/05/2023 22:38

How did she get a refund though? Surely they refunded the card it was purchased on?

UsingChangeofName · 28/05/2023 22:42

EachandEveryone · 28/05/2023 21:06

That ship has sailed a long time ago, it would be useless to me. It would be amazing for someone else though.

But presumably the gift is useless to your friend too ? Hence the reason she is either selling it on or re-gifting it (another confusing things about your post).

If you buy something for someone they haven't asked for, however 'nice' or 'useful' you think it is, if it isn't what the person wants, then it seems pretty sensible to pass on the gift to someone else.

SheilaFentiman · 28/05/2023 23:03

You could always say “what are you planning to do with the X, I think that the British heart foundation collects that sort of thing if you wanted to give it to charity”

Chickapee · 28/05/2023 23:19

Yes I think it's a baby item as OP said that ship has sailed (or something like that)

Daffodilsandtuplips · 28/05/2023 23:22

pippinsleftleg · 28/05/2023 21:04

I think that as she has the money refunded and the item she should give the item to you.

I agree with this.
I bought an uplighter from an online retailer, it broke after a week so I contacted the retailer who refunded me, they didn’t want the item returned as it’s easier for them to write it off. They then sent me a new one out, I hadn’t asked for one, I contacted them and they told me to keep it as it was their error.

PeaceLilyCactus · 28/05/2023 23:26

Yabu - you bought her a gift, anything she does with that gift or money she makes from the gift, is none of your business and I don’t understand why you’re annoyed.

CrapBucket · 28/05/2023 23:27

”Hi friend, now that we have the working [yoghurt maker] and also the cash, I want you to keep the money as your present and then I would like to pass the [yoghurt maker] along to someone who will use it. Could you make sure it’s ready for me to collect on Monday when I’m passing? Thanks“