How to get my 4 year old to share/ listen/ stop being bossy!!

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Oh my god how hard is parenting 😫😭

My 4 year old has an answer for everything, he would argue black is white, he's so savvy!

Anyway his best little friend lives next door and comes over to play which is lovely. Recently he's become soooo bossy with her and I'm worried she's going to stop wanting to be his friend if he carries on. He will tell her off for picking up certain toys, tell her off for doing something he hasn't agreed first etc.
I've tried talking to him about sharing his toys if she's coming to pay and that he can't be bossy etc but it always ends that way. What can I do?

I've told him I won't allow her to come over if he does it again but it still makes no difference. She's such a sweet little thing and we are good friends as families so I'd like to try get this stage out of him. Any suggestions?!

You’ve told him She won’t come over but have you followed through? Has he been bossy with her and next time he’s wanted her to come over, said no, she can’t as he didn’t share and wasn’t kind last time?

do you correct hi. At the time when they are playing?

I'd back off and let them work it out. It's trial and error, he needs to learn. Empower her to stand up for herself, make sure she knows that he should share/take turns and she doesn't have to put up with it just because it's his house and then leave them to it.

Does he ever go to her house? Or do they play on neutral ground? You might find he's better in those situations.

Yes I've followed Thro and not agreed to her coming over after he's been like that. But then the next time it just happens again after a while.

I have asked her if she can choose something else to play with if ds doesn't want her to play with XYZ but he's not choosy over toys. He just decides to be bossy over small things.