Gifts for sib’s adult kids. Do you still?

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I am wondering how long most aunts and uncles continue to give gifts at Christmas or birthdays to their adult nieces and nephews, particularly if you don’t have much of a relationship with them.

If you have stopped, did you stop when they were 18 or 21? And how did you deal with it when one or several were still under 18? It doesn’t feel right giving gifts to two 17 year olds and ignoring a 19 year old.

Young adults may go through a stage where they’re not that interested in their aunts and uncles. But later on, by remembering them with gifts it may open the door to building a warmer relationship. Or am I kidding myself?

Is it worth giving gifts to a young adult who has no interest in you just in case that changes as they get older?

Niece and nephew are 29 and 31 respectively. I do Christmas presents but not birthdays. They do the same in return. But then, we're all very close.

I won’t stop as long as I can afford it. They’re far worse off than me and I like to send them money on birthdays and Christmas

No we stop when they get to 18.