When does life because less 'all go'

[kippymcquick]

I suppose there's no real age as life is maybe a constant busy whirlwind for all of us but if any of you lucky ducks have found an age that's nice and chilled, what age is it?

Im constantly in a permanent state of exhausted pigeon. I was a sahm when kids were small then went part time which I loved- it was a perfect mix of social and mummy which really fitted well. Somehow I've ended up going into a new job ( which I enjoy) but it's full time and while it's great I feel I'm never getting my ass on a seat between farming kids to clubs, lessons, after school clubs, homework etc trying to keep up with my never ending housework and just the usual hum drum of life .

What age will I be when im drinking a hot cup of coffee again?!?! Lol

I’d guess at a point you are either unemployed or retired or housebound.

I'm alone with 12yo DD, work 4 days a week in a mid level management job. It dawned on me today that I've finally hit a point where I feel I can watch a film, go shopping for a couple of hours or sit in the garden and not feel guilty because there is something else I have to do or somewhere I need to be x

My kids are 10 and 12 and are at school between 8-5. They do clubs twice a week and I work but I run my own business so I also go to the gym and can do errands in the day. Sometimes it’s madly busy but I’m extremely organised so not normally.
I love it. I hate feeling like everything is on top of me and I want to be able to say yes when the kids ask to play cricket with me or just chat about things because before I know it theyll be teens and off doing their own thing.

I'm not sure we get one these days.

Work + children

just sort of blends into

Work + caring responsibilities for parents

which just sort of blends into

Work plus caring responsibilities for spouse or needing care yourself I s'pose.

Then death.

And there might be some poverty along the way just go up the ante.

Or at the very least what Jane Austen would call "reduced circumstances".

So that's nice.

Post menopause
Children left home
Working part time

Definitely better !

I'm pretty chilled most of the time. Early 50s, kids at Uni, no caring responsibilities (my parents are not alive, DH has one elderly parent but they live in another country and have plenty of other children there to worry about them). I work full time, but I find it more enjoyable than stressful for the most part. I work from home about half the time. We have a cleaner and some gardening help, DH has always taken at least equal share of all household stuff. I feel I have enough free time and energy to be happy!

On the whole I found things got steadily less hectic as the kids got older and needed less and less full time attention.