(Am I The MIL?)I do sometimes wonder!
For example. My son is 23. He lives very happily with his girlfriend and 2 other friends about 12 miles away from me. The other 3 work long, regular hours. DS works the same hours, but some evenings and 3 condensed days. I work flexibly from home. On one of his free days, I pick him up, he does some driving practice then we come to my house where his cats still live. I cook lunch. Always one of his favourites. (I love to cook and miss cooking for a family.) We chat. He drives back, stopping to do the weekly flat shop. I wait in the car. He gets home in time to put the shopping away and cook dinner for gf and flatmates. I often send a cake or something back with him for them all. We're good friends and I think we both enjoy the time together-but I can imagine some mumsnetters muttering about apron strings! His girlfriend can't be in our house for long because she's VERY allergic to cats- but I do see them together every few weeks-either for a drink, or a walk on the beach. We seem to get on well. Ds and I chat on text a bit-usually initiated by him. So, too involved?