Would you upgrade / change your wedding or engagement ring?

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Just thinking about this myself and have surprised myself by realising I would not actually like to do this...

I have 4 diamonds in my wedding ring and dh had suggested adding more for a significant anniversary next year. I am fine with this as it the same ring and the stones can be added without really altering the ring too much.

The existing diamonds are evenly spaced around the ring meaning two of them are always hidden in the palm of my hand.

The jeweller who made the ring suggested that the 4 diamonds be placed together along the top of the ring, channel set with no gap between them and this would really make an impact visually. But I didn't want that at the time.

I still love the ring and the setting and now dh has suggested adding more to do as the jeweller originally suggested and leaving the two on the back where they are.

I had to think about what that would mean to my ring but have decided it would be ok and I could live with it. But it surprised me that I would not like a whole new ring as I am more sentimental than I thought and it would feel strange to me that if it was no longer my wedding ring.

I feel the same about my engagement ring I have to say.

My mother, on the other hand, has had 4 or 5 engagement rings over the years - still married to the same man!

She just fancied bigger, better rings as they got older and had a bit more money to spare.

She actually lost her original engagement ring..

How do you all feel about it? No problem upgrading to a bigger nicer ring or no way, the original is meaningful and I would not change it?

It was an "upgrade" in style but much cheaper than the original rings, about 1/5 of the price. The wedding band was £10.

Well I had the shank replaced on my engagement ring because it's Victorian and the original one was like wire. My wedding ring was my late mother's so that's not going anywhere either. Also (and I realise this may not be important to many), it was blessed during the service which can't really be replicated.

I guess I'm technically on my third engagement ring, but that's because the first 2 they made had massive inclusions in them - visible to the naked eye. So, I got ring 3 before the wedding ring.
I wouldn't change it now.

I’ve only been married a year but I can’t imagine ever changing mine, they’re too meaningful. I’m not bothered by expensive jewellery anyway!

No and I'd rather an eternity ring than adapt my wedding or engagement ring for an anniversary....what would you do add more at 10, 15, 20 years?

I changed my engagement ring. When we got engaged, we could only afford a very cheap ring, and DH promised me we'd get a nicer one a few years down the line. I wouldn't change my wedding band though.

I would change. I hate my wedding ring - cheapish platinum band from generic jewellers but has a dodgy stone in it. Feel it cheapens my engagement ring - would happily replace it with a plain band but my husband doesn’t even wear his now as it doesn’t fit so unless he gets one its a bit daft wanting mine replaced when he won’t wear one. The actual ring doesn’t change how married you are so in that sense it doesn’t bother me what i wear and doesn’t need to be my original band but i don’t think i’ll be getting an eternity one anytime soon either. My engagement ring whilst not one i chose was my husbands choice which means more to me that the wedding one

I got my first engagement ring after we got married...

I've upgraded both that and my eternity rings at least twice since. I wouldn't touch my wedding ring though, that's there for life.

Yes I did. For me the value and importance was in the stone not the design, I had it changed twice. Once from a solitaire to a solitaire with diamond shoulders and then a few years later had it made into a halo setting with diamond shoulders. Most of my friends have had their engagement rings remodelled over the years

I stoped wearing my engagement ring last year so that I could wear my late Mum's engagement ring most of the time. But I could never pretend that it's MY engagement ring - it's another ring with great sentimental value, and my engagement ring sits in its own little box by the bed in its original condition and will never be changed.

I wouldn’t change either. The engagement ring was a surprise but I designed my wedding ring myself, and I’m still happy with it.

I plan to upgrade my engagement ring on our 25th wedding anniversary in 2 years time, same style just a bigger stone. I’m going to get original stone made into a pendant.

The only times I've ever taken my wedding ring off were when I had major surgery a few years ago and the hospital insisted it was removed, and for a few days last year to have it made a bit bigger as it was starting to feel a bit tight. Both times I felt naked without it. It's a tiny, thin plain white gold band that cost £27.50 in 1980, but I could never change it. 😆

For me upgrading or changing would diminish the price less, irreplaceable sentimental value to nothing. I want to look at and see the rings that mark the occasion, not a lump of gold remodelled.

I have my mum and dads original rings they exchanged when dating in the 1950s, mums, engagement ring, their weddings rings. They are not fancy and represent the commitment they made to each other as young adults just starting out in a life time together, they just wouldnt have been the same if they had been materially altered.

I developed a gold allergy and had to stop wearing mine. DH treated me to a copy in platinum which is lovely but I'm not as attached to it as my original.

No, I wouldn't change. They are the rings I was engaged and married with - it would feel so wrong to change, because they're for life. And my husband would be hurt. There's lots of other jewellery or watches that could be given instead.

My wedding ring was stolen a few years ago , and I was heartbroken. I actually prefer the more up-to-date replacement, as it's daintier with diamonds. I wear it with my original engagement ring.
However, I'd just love to have my actual wedding ring back, and regularly scour Ebay, just in case I spot it (although of course that's not going to happen!).
So no, personally I wouldn't change them by choice, but I think it's fine to do it if you'd like to.

My original engagement ring was an antique mourning ring with an inscription relating to someone's lost loved one...I was a fashion student and a bit weird back then! It was set with several tiny seed pearls in a cross design on black enamel. I think it cost £75.

After a few years the pearls had become damaged/lost and the enamel was chipped so DH offered to buy me a new one. I chose something completely different (an 8ct emerald with diamond shoulders) that is more to my current taste. I absolutely love it and although I take it off regularly and don't sleep in it, I'd never change it in any way.

I'd never change my wedding ring - it's very unusual and although it came from a high street jeweller I've never seen another even remotely like it. It has a raised design that goes all the way round, so hopefully I'll never gain or lose weight as it couldn't be altered.

No, I love my ring and it belonged to Dh mum and grandmother.

I lost my wedding ring - I was really distraught at the time, and it was replaced with a cheap one (just so I had one to wear)

Dh has a titanium one and as an anniversary present for 10 years we got matching platinum rings from Tiffany’s much to Dh disgust 😂

My engagement ring is still the same much loved one Dh proposed to me with. I do have a 1.5ct diamond ring which Dh gave me. I’m angling for an eternity ring but can’t decide on the style.