He didn't pay the rent

[TheDaysEye]

Not married, relationship on the rocks.
2 DC under 5, 1 disabled.

I am full time carer to DC, he works 9-5 standard office job.
I pay the electricity, WiFi and do food shopping ect.
He pays the rent, cc bills, and food shopping too.

Apart from he hasn't paid the rent for 2 months, and I found out via a letter through the door from housing association.

Background- he took over paying rent years ago after I had a tough financial few months and fucked up myself and fell behind on rent payments, but he gloats how much better he is with finances than me constantly. I don't claim to be a walking calculator.

I'm stumped

Many years ago my first husband failed to pay the nursery fees, despite swearing he had, and diverted the money to buying dinner for a nursery mum. I divorced him.

Could it be something like that? Something secret he wants the funds for?

Is the tenancy joint? You’re both responsible for the rent payments so both liable.
Ask him why the rent hasn’t been paid first. Then contact the HA to come up with a payment plan for the arrears

He’s done a terrible thing by not paying.

Yes it's a terrible betrayal of trust to risk the roof over your heads.

I guess you need to figure out if he’s not paid as he’s spent the money on a boozy weekend with his mates or another women OR if he actually couldn’t afford it and didn’t want to worry you with it.

Why hasn't he paid the rent?

He'll say he just forgot, I'll have to wait till he's back from work to find out if he actually has the funds or not.

I don't think it's been blown on anything else.

If you don’t think he’s blown it on anything else then you think he will have the money to pay it straight away?

How do you "forget" twice? If that were the case he will have the money available to pay. Or has he already spent it elsewhere?

Does he have form for just "forgetting" things like this?

So what did he say OP?

How can you forget these things? Surely it's set up in direct debit? Did he cancel it?

Who forgets to pay rent, it's due every month for forever.

He just forgot? Isn't it by DD, I always know roughly how much spare spends I have left for the month... Pretty sure I'd notice if I were a few hundred up.

My ex used to do stuff like thos with the rent and council tax. Was relieved to be rid of him. Phone the housing association and set up a payment plan