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DiL to be question, advice please?

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MissMarplesGoddaughter · 24/05/2023 10:45

If you were going to stay for the first time with your in laws to be, what would make you feel very welcome in their home?

This is the first time DiL to be has stayed overnight and I really want to make sure all goes, so please hit me with your ideas and suggestions......

OP posts:

pyjamalife · 29/05/2023 09:28

Glad it went well, before next time make sure any photos of your son with ex girlfriends are out the way. My MIL put one up, after her son moved in with me. And made a point of telling him and his sister in a group chat.

Guess who doesn't see her son or GC as much as I was always made to "feel welcome" outwardly, but little comments and actions proved otherwise.

Remember, if she marries him and has his kids, it's always better to have started on the right foot as she will remember the early memories. You sound absolutely amazing! I would be inviting you over weekly if you were my MIL.

saraclara · 29/05/2023 10:31

Make sure she has disposal facilities for sanitary protection/wipes and knows where they are;

I'd have died inside if this had been my MIL's introduction. Presumably OP has a bathroom bin. It shouldn't need specifically pointing out!

reluctantbrit · 29/05/2023 11:42

saraclara · 29/05/2023 10:31

Make sure she has disposal facilities for sanitary protection/wipes and knows where they are;

I'd have died inside if this had been my MIL's introduction. Presumably OP has a bathroom bin. It shouldn't need specifically pointing out!

Unfortunately not.

My PIL still haven't a bathroom bin, I know them for 30 years now and unfortunately I was once in that situation. Luckily now-DH understood immediately and told me what to do.

One person I know is horrified of the idea of a used pad in her bathroom, she actually removes her bin (used only for cotton wool or similar) so that guests can't dispose their sanitary products there. She was extremely proud of herself when she told me.

CoronationKicking · 29/05/2023 11:49

"Make sure she has disposal facilities for sanitary protection/wipes and knows where they are; invite her to help herself to tea/coffee/ soft drinks and show here where the stuff is. Warn her if somebody in the household must have access to their car/ the only bathroom at x oclock .
Confirm what you'd like her to call you.

Introduce her to the dog, tells her if it has any foibles and check she's okay around animals. Get your son to give her a run down of the usual daily time table so she knows when you usually go to bed/get up/ eat.
/go to work"

Omg 😆 this made me laugh. It just sounds so awkward. Can imagine the conversation.

"Hi DIL, follow me, I'll show you where the tampon disposal bucket is. Soft drinks are in the cupboard, and please do remember that Dave has to have his daily shit at 8.30 sharp. Please, call me Sandra. The dog is a bit snappy, hope you're ok with him? Right, I'll leave Julian to give you a little run down of my daily itinerary so you know what time I get up and go to work"

🤣

pyjamalife · 29/05/2023 12:18

saraclara · 29/05/2023 10:31

Make sure she has disposal facilities for sanitary protection/wipes and knows where they are;

I'd have died inside if this had been my MIL's introduction. Presumably OP has a bathroom bin. It shouldn't need specifically pointing out!

You presume this, but mine didn't! Her daughter had moved out and there was no bin. I wouldn't want to be specifically told it, but having a bin would have been nice.

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