What lovely thing did you MOH/loved one do for you on your wedding day?

[CraneBoysMysteries]

My wonderful friend is getting married in the Summer. I am thrilled for her and will be her MOH.

She is one of the most generous easy going people I know. She has been bridesmaids to multiple friends and each time has done something special...organised a surprise choir at the church/got someone famous to record a fake speech (hilarious) at the wedding breakfast. She will also go the extra mile for hen do/decorations etc.

It's now my turn to make her feel special on her day (hen do is done). I'm struggling to think of the little things/big things that I can do for her to add something to her day. It doesn't have to be big or expensive necessarily but I really want to show her how loved she is.

Can anyone thing back to their day and any little touches friends and family did for you that I can do for her?

Thanks!

Nothing. I still think about this 10 years on. My family either went before the reception or were drunk. Awful day.

My maid of honour was my sister and she did nothing to help at all (I felt I had no choice for her to be my MOH).

My aunt did a lovely thing by looking after my disabled Nan all day so that she could take part in the wedding and it meant such a lot to us both.

One friend wrote me a lovely note in a card which I opened on the morning of the wedding just saying stay calm, enjoy the day and to give her the nod if I needed anything. Nothing profound but was good to know someone had my back.

(wish you’d been my MOH, your friend is a lucky gal!)

Get a scrap book and add photos of all of her friends/hens and get them to write a message in it or write letters to her.

Get a personalised bottle of champagne (if she drinks) for getting ready.

I know someone who arranged singing waiters as a surprise for the bride and groom and that went down really well.

She sounds brilliant - I’m sure she will appreciate whatever you decide to do.

The Queen used to shift her handbag from one side to the other so a flunky knew to move her on if someone was boring/monopolising her.

I think this would be a very useful function at a wedding - useful for vendors and awkward aunts alike!

I was MOH to my Best Friend, I started by paying for by own outfit (matching the others ) for the wedding to save her having to pay (she paid for all the other bridesmaids) on the night before she was staying at her parents house so I came over with some champagne and photos of her and hubby to be in a photo book i had made for them that documented their relationship.

on the day of the wedding I ensured she had food and drinks while getting ready (Waitrose sandwich platters were a big hit!) but stopped her drinking to many Buck’s Fizz while we got ready!

through the day I had make up and perfume in my bag for freshening up so she could just relax!

@xoomer I'm so sorry, that's rubbish and not at all how your special day should be. I hope however awful the day was, you have enjoyed a happy marriage

@SomeoneSomewhere21 a lovely note reminding her to relax and enjoy the day is a lovely idea

@ManchesterRoad I have just gone down a rabbit hole of singing waiters! I LOVE IT! This may be my 'big' idea

@thecatsthecats HAHA, something like holding the bouquet in a different hand when she wants someone to piss off !

Fending off loony family members in the prep period was a good one, so if someone came to bother me about something they would deal. Making sure I got things to eat and drink. They had bought some of my favourite snacks and WATER as well as booze. Just being lovely and lots of hugs! I love them.

Erm, nothing. My sister was my bridesmaid, and I had no expectations of her to do anything other than walk down the aisle behind me. I had no need of help or support.

TBH I don't understand why brides need loads of help on the day. What does a MOH do?

The only thing my sister did was use up all the hot water when she had a bath, so I had a lukewarm bath. (This pre-dates most houses having a shower).

@Outdamnspot23 drinks and snacks are such a good idea. I was sooooo hungry for most of the day! I think there is a bridal room at the venue so putting in a selection for her of things I know she'd like that she can pick at through the day is a great idea. Thanks!

@RampantIvy that's a real shame you had that experience.

It isn't about what someone 'needs'. My friend is a self sufficient, professional woman who is more than capable of taking care of herself. But on a day that is so special for her, I'd like to do some extra things that she wouldn't expect, but would appreciate and make her feel loved. That's the role a MOH can play and I've been lucky enough to have that so want to reciprocate.

Mine brought ibruprofen and paracetamol because she knew me better than I knew myself and she knew I would get a headache! Thank goodness she did or I would have been in bed before the food was finished!

When I got married @CraneBoysMysteries it wasn't usual to have a MOH and loads of bridesmaids. I think at most brides had two or three, and they were often just little girls. I haven't even been to a wedding where there were more than a couple of bridesmaids either.

The wedding industry has changed beyond recognition since I got married. I'm just an old dinosaur.

And you sound lovely and thoughtful.