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Partner caught cheating

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Yahyahs22 · 22/05/2023 09:10

So after a hellish weekend of, I don't love you anymore, I'm not attracted to you, I want to live my own life and so much more...I've just found out he's been texting other women. We have a 1 year old and a 3 year old. Thankfully I own my own house and I've kicked his scummy arse out. But it hurts, it hurts a lot. Just some hand holding would be great..

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Weatherwax13 · 22/05/2023 09:16

Handhold from me. That's absolutely crap and you must be terrible pain. I hope you have some support. You know you'll get through it but right now it's horribly raw and you're probably in a bit of shock. I know it's a cliché but be kind to yourself Flowers

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Yahyahs22 · 22/05/2023 09:23

Thank you so much. I do, actually his own family are my biggest support. They're all disgusted by him and are ready to wash their hands with him. In the past he's smashed my phone up, threw a bottle at me really hurting my hand, said the most vile things to me...the list goes on. I can't believe it took this for me to stop being his doormat, I wish I got a back bone a long time ago!

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MaidOfSteel · 22/05/2023 09:39

Good on you for kicking him out. You've taken back control of your life. Sending 💐

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Weatherwax13 · 22/05/2023 09:40

You bent your backbone to try to keep your family together. It was always there, you've just straightened it up. You use that anger, love. You have your power back now.

YoucancallmeKAREN · 22/05/2023 09:52

I know it hurts like hell at the moment but honesty, a few weeks from now you will feel much better, 6 months from now you will feel so much better and a year from now you will be celebrating with a bottle of fizz thanking yourself for getting rid of him. Of course as you have your own house he will make attempts to crawl back because his life was easy and comfy, just remember the word he used this weekend, in fact screenshot this page and re read them when he tries to wangle his way back in.

OrigamiOwls · 22/05/2023 10:52

Well done for kicking him out. Keep that resolve strong. Remember the best revenge is a life well lived.

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Yahyahs22 · 22/05/2023 11:07

Crying all over again but for different reasons now. Your comments really cheered me up.
I'm as upset as I am because there's no chance I'll ever take him back, ever. Weirdly, I hope you're right and he does try and crawl back just so I get the satisfaction of telling him once again to fuck off!!
Good luck to the next woman who gets him, she'll need it.

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caringcarer · 22/05/2023 11:25

You know you made the right decision. He will probably come to regret it one day. I threw my exh out after a 21 year marriage because I found out he cheated on me. I've remarried and I'm very happy. My adult DS told me the other day they were talking and exh told him he really regrets what he did and wished we were still married.

StopStartStop · 22/05/2023 11:27

Well done! Best move you've ever made.
It hurts, and will for a while, but this is a big win for you. 💐🏆

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Yahyahs22 · 22/05/2023 14:56

caringcarer · 22/05/2023 11:25

You know you made the right decision. He will probably come to regret it one day. I threw my exh out after a 21 year marriage because I found out he cheated on me. I've remarried and I'm very happy. My adult DS told me the other day they were talking and exh told him he really regrets what he did and wished we were still married.

Oh wow! I'm so happy that you got your happy ending though. That's the problem with cheats, they never end up on top!

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Yahyahs22 · 22/05/2023 14:57

Latest thing now is he's stopped all his direct debits with gas electric etc etc, said I'll have to get CPS to chase him for money as he won't give me money directly. I cannot believe I was ever besotted with this oxygen thief.

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TheShellBeach · 22/05/2023 15:40

I'm so sorry, OP.
What a horrible thing to find out.
Are you married?

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Yahyahs22 · 23/05/2023 06:36

Wedding was booked but thank God we weren't married yet. Makes everything so much easier.

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WonkyPicture · 23/05/2023 06:56

My marriage imploded 4 weeks ago after 24 years together, due to him having an emotional affair. I threw him out, he didn't want to go. I've heard he's about to move in with the new OW. He's cheated 3 times that I know of; his first marriage ended due to him cheating, and now he's cheated on me twice. I've had a nervous breakdown, but I'm working on dragging myself back. My ds says husband isn't coping well, that he doesn't sleep much and says that all he ever does is work. His self pity is phenomenal, I'm better off out of it. I scared as I'm mid fifties and need to rebuild my life, but I will do it and I have no doubts husband will regret it... I bet the new woman will too, poor cow. She needs to be careful what she wishes for.

I'm sorry about your situation, it sounds like you're better off out of it too. Hard though, isn't it!?

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Whatevergetsyouthroughthenight · 23/05/2023 10:06

I have reported the troll.

Well done OP, you have saved yourself and your DCs from a life of misery from this man.

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Yahyahs22 · 23/05/2023 10:43

WonkyPicture · 23/05/2023 06:56

My marriage imploded 4 weeks ago after 24 years together, due to him having an emotional affair. I threw him out, he didn't want to go. I've heard he's about to move in with the new OW. He's cheated 3 times that I know of; his first marriage ended due to him cheating, and now he's cheated on me twice. I've had a nervous breakdown, but I'm working on dragging myself back. My ds says husband isn't coping well, that he doesn't sleep much and says that all he ever does is work. His self pity is phenomenal, I'm better off out of it. I scared as I'm mid fifties and need to rebuild my life, but I will do it and I have no doubts husband will regret it... I bet the new woman will too, poor cow. She needs to be careful what she wishes for.

I'm sorry about your situation, it sounds like you're better off out of it too. Hard though, isn't it!?

Oh my, I'm SO sorry you were forced into this new life. It is hard yeah but I keep reminding myself of the alternative! Putting up with crap and never trusting them again. It's not fair we have to go through this but I have ever faith, like me, you'll be more than okay
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Yahyahs22 · 23/05/2023 10:44

Whatevergetsyouthroughthenight · 23/05/2023 10:06

I have reported the troll.

Well done OP, you have saved yourself and your DCs from a life of misery from this man.

Oh I would love to know what they said!! Trolls don't bother me lol.
I agree, and I'm feeling strong after listening to a decent break up playlist 😉

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