Calling all singles.

[vampiressuck]

I'm newly single. Well, 8 months single and now I'm out of that 'mourning' period, i was wondering what is it that keeps people from getting into new relationships.

All my friends are coupled, so they're no help.

Being a solo parent and not getting any time away from my children. Been single (not through choice) for 6 years 😳

I have no reason to look for a relationship. I'm not lonely, I don't want to tell someone about my day, I don't want to listen to someone tell me about theirs. I like living alone, I like my own company and I don't want to share my bed. I don't want to have to accommodate someone else, compromise or answer tedious text messages or waste my evening chatting shit when I want to watch MasterChef. I have a million reasons to be single and cannot think of one to be in a relationship.

15 months single (widowed) and nowhere near ready for a new relationship. I can't see myself ever getting to that point to be honest, partly because I foster and it would be a huge faff but mostly because I still love DH and can't see that changing.

For me, a succession of selfish, lazy, tight fisted boyfriends who apparently hadn't heard of the female orgasm.

I've been single through choice for 13 years, no regrets (unless you count wishing I'd gone single a couple of decades sooner). There's less cleaning and cooking to do, my groceries last 3 times as long, I have much more disposable income, much more free time, nobody trying to control my finances clothing or opinions, there's no having sex that does nothing for me, nobody uses my laptop to watch porn while I'm out of the room, nobody grabs my phone and reads all the text messages. Single life is so much better.

Yep! As above really!

I'm a single mum to ds(15) and I work full time. So no time really for a relationship and all the hassle it involves.

I've had one relationship since leaving ds' dad 11 years ago. Dated for four years, he complained about me having to do school run, not being able to take holidays in term time, kept trying to exclude ds and then told me I 'needed to get rid of ds two weekends in four if our relationship was to progress.' DS was 9 at the time. 😡

So I dumped him and haven't bothered since. Maybe when ds goes to uni in 3 years time. But I'm older now, and most available men my age are available for a reason. I'd rather be single than in a bad relationship.

All of this
except I am lonely but it's more friendship I want

there's no incentive to have a relationship. All that sacrifice for what?

@Assignedtoworryyourmother

I relate to sharing the bed!
I am not a bed sharer at all.

Because I don't want to.

Being part of a couple means having to consider another person's feelings and opinions every time you do something - decorating, booking a holiday, what to cook for dinner. Ugh. No thanks.

Not to mention - imagine having to go visiting the in laws regularly. Horrific. I limit my time with my own mother, I don't want to feel beholden to visiting someone else's mother all the time!