Depressed and tearful after social event

[Tryingtoworkitout89]

Hello,
Does anyone else ever feel like this or am I simply a bit odd 🤔
We had a big get together for FIL yesterday evening at our house which had been planned for ages and lots of effort made for food, decorations, music etc. The build-up to this event had been huge as many of his old friends and colleagues had been invited as a surprise for him. We all had a great night but today the house is quiet and still and although I'm loving the peace and quiet I feel totally and utterly depressed and down. Almost like the life force has been sucked out of me, as dramatic and ridiculous as that sounds! Really odd. Does anyone else feel like this after social events?
Its almost as if I look at the empty chairs and sofa and can almost imagine the guests still there and snapshots of conversations that they had are replaying in my mind. Making me feel really sad yet I really enjoyed myself last night.

I do suffer from depression and anxiety anyway so I guess it's linked to that but weird how it suddenly comes on like this.

Were you drinking? If so, could be that.

Did you drink a lot? I feel quite depressed if coming down from a hangover. If not, then yes I can get a little melancholy and sentimental with things. Just remember how nice things are now in life wrt family. Sorry, m probably not much help!

This is apparently quite common after (big) weddings. The come down from the excitement end people missing the 'project'.

Or you're hungover.

Hi @Tryingtoworkitout89

I think what is really is the big leading up prep, to this kind of big milestone event for obviously significant and loved family member,

Now the anti climax effect ,

Same or similar effect as leading up to stress frustration and prep of organising for a Christmas meal for a large extended family , and getting everything perfect just so to meet everyone obviously father in Laws expections,

For example when you have all Christmas lights ect up and they have to be put away everything in house suddenly feels bleak empty life less ect kind of feeling or similar to this

Hello, no I don't drink at all. Sorry forgot that in my OP. I haven't had alcohol in over 10 years as it exacerbates my depression but Ironically I feel dreadful today anyway so may as well have had a drink lol. I had to drop an elderly aunt home last night so was only on soft drinks.
Its almost like a deep loneliness and feels like I'm in a surreal limbo. Almost like disassociation in a way like I'm disconnected from everyone. Hard to explain but it's horrible

I think you're just tired out after all the planning and work. None of us is Superwoman.

Relax, have a cup of tea, go for a walk.

Normal I think. It’s just the comedown from all the adrenaline etc.

Could you write down some of your favourite conversations / observations from the evening? It may make you smile and in time, will help you to remember the lovely evening. You could always ask others to contribute.

I think after big events (like a wedding etc), when you’ve spent a lot of time planning and then had a great time, it can make you feel low because it’s all over in a flash.

I get that feeling when I'm on my own for the first time after a big gathering. It's surreal really but I think perfectly normal?!

I feel like this a lot. Which is why almost every weekend I have full house. I love having people round & all the hustle and bustle it brings. I hate a quiet house.

I imagine you did all the planning and organising, many brides feel like you after the wedding, its a common enough thing and I'd think you're experiencing similar, it's like everything you planned and looked forward to is over and done so please try to relax and remember you've given your family a wonderful get together to look back on.

Reminds me of the feeling I get on Boxing Day. All the excitement and planning for a lovely Christmas and experiencing the lovey day and then Boxing Day comes and confirms it’s all done again for another year!

It probably is a come down.

I feel the opposite like the mess, crumbs and dirt have sullied my house and they get to go back to their houses that haven't been messed up. I obviously love the people that come so its crazy.

Thanks for replies, yes I agree its like a come down from extreme to the other. One minute it's busy and chaotic and fun and then nothing! Not to mention the mess and upheaval. I also sit fretting and ruminating all interactions I've had in case I behaved oddly and upset or offended people but I think that's my anxiety playing tricks on me as im often socially anxious in company. Just feel tormented by anxiety tonight

I think a meeting after the event to chat and laugh or indeed cry etc about the events goings on will help you immensely in these situations. Try it.