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Should I let my daughter dye her hair?

51 replies

Happyhedgehog443 · 19/05/2023 20:46

My daughter (15 in August) is really wanting to dye her hair blonde and has been nagging about it for a while now and will not give up on it. She is willing to pay using her own money she has saved but I’m really worried she shouldn’t be that worried about her appearance. She says it will make her happy however I think there are bigger things to be worried about. We have discussed different ideas such as balayage so she wouldn’t have to get her roots regularly done however i’m still not convinced with the whole idea. Does this seem unreasonable?

OP posts:
BirbFriend · 19/05/2023 21:32

I had green hair when I was 15.

I don't see the issue.

JorisBonson · 19/05/2023 21:33

Is it half term already??

HelloDD · 19/05/2023 21:34

DietrichandDiMaggio · 19/05/2023 21:31

Ffs this is confusing -so the OP is a reverse, we have the daughter pretending to be the mother, the mother posting under another username and then the daughter answering as herself under the original username.🙄

Daughter is OP, I’m the mother.
DD was posting because she knows I spend time on here.

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Inkypot · 19/05/2023 21:34

Right so it's just mascara not false lashes? Is that right? Because mascara isn't exactly false lashes 😄
I used clear mascara at that age because it was the 90s and it was cool at the time 🙄 I also used all manner of colours of hair mascara though and used irons to straighten my hair so....

ssd · 19/05/2023 21:35

I dyed my hair blonde at 15. Asking permission never entered me head. When did kids become so compliant. Its depressing.

HelloDD · 19/05/2023 21:35

Sorry, I had to change my name so DD can’t see my previous posts. I’ve been here since I was pregnant with my 13 year old.

DietrichandDiMaggio · 19/05/2023 21:35

HelloDD · 19/05/2023 21:32

I have not said she should worry about more important things. I’m worried she is very focused on a perfect Instagram look of highlights etc. And it seems expensive and a lot of hassle for a 14 year old.

She says it will make her happy however I think there are bigger things to be worried about.

Yes you have, here.

HelloDD · 19/05/2023 21:36

Ok, DD only wears lashes to parties.

Socktupus · 19/05/2023 21:37

🥱

Original poster
Happyhedgehog443 · 19/05/2023 21:37

which has been twice ever

OP posts:
HelloDD · 19/05/2023 21:38

DietrichandDiMaggio · 19/05/2023 21:35

She says it will make her happy however I think there are bigger things to be worried about.

Yes you have, here.

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She’s just phrased it oddly I think.

SunshineLollipopsAndRainbows · 19/05/2023 21:39

DD14 dyes her own hair - she first did it at 12. I don’t buy it for her anymore as she does it so often & we’ve told her if she doesn’t clean the bathroom afterwards it will all stop. She actually does it very well.

HelloDD · 19/05/2023 21:40

DietrichandDiMaggio · 19/05/2023 21:35

She says it will make her happy however I think there are bigger things to be worried about.

Yes you have, here.

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That was my DD. I have not said that.

thebestbirtheraccordingtoDD · 19/05/2023 21:41

My DD has subtle highlights she's in year 6.
We added a red dye to her ends in first lockdown which was awesome.

HelloDD · 19/05/2023 21:41

Anyway. Thanks everyone.

SingleMumStruggling · 19/05/2023 21:44

As long as she's using her own money to do it then I'd say it was up to her. If it ends up a mess then it's her problem to fix.

thaegumathteth · 19/05/2023 21:48

She's 15. It's her hair and her money. Can't believe you even think you should say no tbh.

OneMoreCookieMonster · 19/05/2023 21:57

Why is everyone ignoring the fact that she is a child?! Hair colour and bleach can be dangerous if not used correctly and any decent salon will not touch her hair with colour until 16. And, if they do, I wouldn't trust them. They won't be covered by insurance. There have been cases of children needing skin grafts after allergic reactions and chemical burns due to colouring and using bleach. She would need to patch tested as well.

The big hair colouring brands absolutely state their products are not to be used on under 16s

InSpainTheRain · 19/05/2023 22:13

I wouldn't have a problem with this at all. My 2 DS have always experimented especially in the school holidays.

Iyiyiiii · 19/05/2023 22:18

Happyhedgehog443 · 19/05/2023 21:27

I do mascara not “eyelashes” i’m not a chav

Chav?

Keep it classy love

inwhichdorisgetsheroats · 19/05/2023 22:20

My DD is 16 and has been dying her hair since she was 14. She's been pink, purple (both temporary) blonde and currently black. I don't have a problem with it as long as she isn't breaking the school rules.

JaninaDuszejko · 19/05/2023 22:28

@Happyhedgehog443 if my daughters (15 & 13 so similar ages to you) used that Chav comment it would mean they wouldn't get what they wanted even if it was what seemed like a reasonable request. Offensive classist language is not acceptable.

I think if you can get a reputable salon to do balayage for you then that is a sensible compromise, no harsh chemicals next to your skin and easier management of your look. But it sounds like that probably won't be possible so do what we did in the 80s and use lemon juice to lighten your hair or one of those spray on treatments that lighten your hair till you are old enough.

DietrichandDiMaggio · 19/05/2023 22:47

That was my DD. I have not said that.

This is such a ridiculous thread.

I was assuming that when your daughter was pretending to be you, she repeated things that you had said to her.
How did you know that she had started this thread?

NewPinkJacket · 19/05/2023 23:53

DietrichandDiMaggio · 19/05/2023 21:31

Ffs this is confusing -so the OP is a reverse, we have the daughter pretending to be the mother, the mother posting under another username and then the daughter answering as herself under the original username.🙄

I reported but it's still here 😂😂

Luredbyapomegranate · 19/05/2023 23:54

She’s 15, why on earth shouldn’t she die her hair??

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