Hate being on my own!

[LadyatLady]

I really struggle being on my own. If I’m going for a walk I always have to call someone, or actually ask if any of my friends are free for a walk.

I’m often alone when I work as I work from home in the main (office attendance twice a month and this can’t be increased). So I kind of feel part of it is I don’t talk a lot during the day (unless I’m on calls) and I’m in my house day in day out,

I go to the gym, supermarket and school.

I sometimes listen to a podcast, but it’s like I struggle to leave free time so I’m often organising quick coffees/lunches etc - sometimes to the extent that I’m totally frazzled from running around trying to fit everything in!

But I just can’t be alone and I find that odd. It’s like I have to fill every minute of every day. Is anyone else like this? How did you make peace with some down time?

No replies yet! thought I'd bump for you. I can't relate OP as I love being alone, so much that I wonder am I normal at all. How did I end up married with 3 kids when all i want most of the time is for them to leave me alone 😁 Whole point is I never get to be alone so to me its like a slice of heaven. The podcasts seem like a good option, live radio was already a friend to me when I used to work alone long distances away in a past life. Mindfulness practice will give you peace when alone, turn down the crazy thoughts if thats what stresses you so you can enjoy a walk.

Oh thank you @LaMaG!! so kind of you to respond. Yes I think part of it is maybe not wanting to me alone with my thoughts. In saying that if I’ve got a magazine I can do that but then I have a short attention span so find myself on social media, mumsnet etc to fill gaps. But honestly I’m manic with working full time, DH works full time, two young DC and weekends are house work/activity central.

I have thought about turning to a yogi.

I love being on my own but don't like walking on my own.'my thoughts get very negative. Having a dog has transformed this for me - she has too much fun on walks for me to feel fed up.

Could be a bit of anxiety OP, I find when my
MH is bad intend to need to fill every moment to distract myself from over thinking

I'm the same.

Extremely low boredom threshold and need to be social.

But alone a lot and struggle with it.

Oh, @LadyatLady - I’m sorry.

I have much older siblings so I was always alone growing up. It’s just something I became accustomed to.

I worked, married, divorced, worked and retired. In the meantime I took up needlepoint. I spend many hours in front of the tv, not paying attention to what’s on, doing my needlepoint and making chair seats and pillows and other assorted things.
It keeps me busy and my thoughts don’t stray.

I know other people knit or crochet or paint. Have you thought of taking a class or two locally? I’m in California but the junior college here offers a wide variety of very interesting courses.

There’s also yoga. And swimming. And gardening - I have a bit of an indoor one.
You could maybe volunteer somewhere if that interests you, like at a nursery or preschool or library or even a care home - or maybe a retirement place.

All the things I’ve listed are great places to meet people. Whatever you decide to do, if you go someplace new and unfamiliar, be safe.

Thanks @DreamTheMoors I think you’re right I need to get my brain into something more creative. I’ve looked at local art classes, it would mean less coffees with friends. I have a lot on with my job but I know I could work smarter. I do procrastinate.

And yes anxiety for definite. It’s like I can’t allow my mind to be still/like it’s wrong of me not to be busy.

Unlike DH I struggle to watch most films, always on my phone.

Hi @LadyatLady ...... I've just come across your post having posted myself recently along the lines of........
"The older I get, the more I'm at home in my own company."
So your post fascinates me, I've never ever been bored in my own company and I like doing things on my own, but I also like being with others too.

How are things for you now?