DS is 5, year 1, and I'm concerned he is being bullied but also he is being disruptive too.
There are two boys in his class and these boys have taught DS about all these really disturbing video games and horror films. (I have spoken to the school about this and they said they're aware of this and have been intervening and taking their phones away - why 5 year olds have phones i do not know!)
DS say these are his friends but then at times tells me he doesn't think they actually like him. I've asked what happens and he said they never really let him play properly with them but they won't let him play with anyone else. They always say they are the boss and he is either who they run away from or who they chase. They often say mean things to him and do get physical with him too.
DH saw them interact with DS at the park yesterday and DH was horrified. He said its like they're a pair of teenagers with how they pick on DS and DH had to intervene with them beating him up. DS got upset when DH done that, DS explained that's how they "play" with him at shcool. DH said that there was no way it was playing, it was awful. DH looked for their parents but neither parents were there!
DH is speaking to the school today.
DS also gets into trouble at school a lot. We have been called in various times because he has been in fights or has been disruptive to his class. When asking DS he says he was defending himself with the fights. But with the disrupting the class, it seems to be that DS is seeking attention and validation, he wants to be the class clown.
There's more to this too though, we have been encouraging DS to play with other children but he tells us no one else will play with him. There's a boy he gets on well with at a club but this boy tells DS he must not tell anyone they're friends when at school! It's like the boy is embarrassed to be associated with DS.
DS has AuDHD (like me) and I wonder if that's hindering him here. He tells me he gets called a baby at school and I have seen that his social skills aren't as developed as his peers. When socialising in a group, he mimics, literally parrots what people say and I can see he is attempting to learn to mask. I recall doing this as a kid.
Some of his behaviour has been leaking into home life too, he has been acting out being the "boss" and we have heard his language change towards his younger brother. It really disturbs me.
I haven't a clue what to do here.