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A wedding one - WWYD

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Snowleopards · 15/05/2023 19:40

More of a what would you do and how pissed off would you be as a bride if I choose the holiday…

Me and my group of uni friends meet up each year on roughly the same weekend a the end of September. It’s one of my favourite weekends of the year!

I have just had a save the date from another friend (old school friend) for a wedding not this September but the next. I know it’s going to clash with uni meet up weekend.

Id rather go on the weekend away than the wedding but since I’ve now got a save the date and next September is not actually booked, how obliged to you think I am to go to this wedding??

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pokabubble · 15/05/2023 19:42

I think you should book the September meet up now!

NuffSaidSam · 15/05/2023 19:44

You're not obliged to go to any wedding you don't want to, but also can you not shift your uni meet-up back/forward one weekend with 18 months notice?!

Sarvanga38 · 15/05/2023 19:44

Surely when you’re talking 15 months away it’s entirely possible to ask your friends if you can do the reunion weekend earlier or later as a one off, unless you don’t actually want to go to the wedding?

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CornishGem1975 · 15/05/2023 19:47

Not obliged to at all, it's an invite not a summons. If the uni meet up is your preference and those friends are your priority, go to that, though i don't really understand with so much notice why you just couldn't make the uni meet up another weekend?

toastofthetown · 15/05/2023 19:50

I would probably wonder why the weekend can't be moved to another weekend with so much notice. Unless there's an event you meet up for specifically, in which case won't your friend know that you always go to Wimbledon/Hay Festival/Birmingham Cocktail Weekend...

BanditsOnTheHorizon · 15/05/2023 19:54

Just go to the Uni meet up if it's the same weekend. I presume you don't have to rsvp to a save the date.

Ginger1982 · 15/05/2023 19:55

Just see if the weekend can be moved?

Bordey · 15/05/2023 19:58

Doesn't it depend on how good a friend you are with this person? Would you want to attend the wedding? Would you be disappointed not to? And can you not shift the weekend slightly to accommodate both? Are you bothered at all about upsetting your friend? Would it even upset them if you didn't go, how close are you?

MsWhitworth · 15/05/2023 19:59

Surely you can move the uni weekend with 18 months’ notice?!

clpsmum · 15/05/2023 20:01

NuffSaidSam · 15/05/2023 19:44

You're not obliged to go to any wedding you don't want to, but also can you not shift your uni meet-up back/forward one weekend with 18 months notice?!

Was going to say the same

custardbear · 15/05/2023 20:03

I'd see if anyone would be up for changing the weekend then try to go to both

Ponderingwindow · 15/05/2023 20:07

The save the date allows you to keep the date open if you want to attend the wedding. It keeps people from wishing they had not planned a flexible holiday on a different date if there is a wedding they do want to attend. It does not mean you are not allowed to choose to decline.

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