Hi there, I’d appreciate advice.
We moved into our home five years ago. As you do, we tried to get on with the neighbours. Not overtly but Christmas cards, biscuits at Christmas, polite nods in the street etc.
We were aware that the boundaries needed to be sorted, told the neighbours we’d get on to it but as yet, haven’t. We had to bring round the legal documents when they told us they wanted to chip off the land that actually belonged to us. My husband showed them that it was ours (you can’t tell on my plan but all our property was elevated compared to theirs so it’s a very clean line.) Furthermore all the gas and water pipes run under the ground there so if he had knocked it all off, it would have caused damage to the pipes.
We now have the money to redo all the front and back plus build new walls etc. Unfortunately relations with the neighbours have massively deteriorated. They are one of those families with five cars but parking for one (they could have more on their property if they choose to but do not).
They were continually parking in front of our house and also across our dropped kerb. Now I know they can park outside our house BUT we live in a street where everyone parks outside their own house. So we were getting shouted at by other neighbours for parking in ‘their’ spot. We tried explaining that politely to our neighbours and gave them a couple of bottles of wine as a way of thanks. They drank the wine and continued to park outside our house, even when their own space was free.
In the end, my husband parked in front of their house when there was no space outside ours and the neighbour was very angry and told him to move out of ‘his’ space. Since then he refuses to speak to us and they no longer park in ‘our’ space. There are plenty of other spaces as we live opposite a T junction and that street doesn’t have many houses on it.
Anyway, that was the start of the deterioration of neighbourly relations.
Then there was round two. This was him storing big metal ladders on our side of the boundary. He lends them out to people so they are always clanking and scraping (I work on the other side of the wall) plus I could hear him banging them against the gas pipe. I said nothing for ages then one day I cracked. I went out and politely asked him not to store his ladders there as the continuous banging against the pipes was giving me anxiety. He said he would move them but of course did nothing.
Ever since we have moved there, they have parked over our dropped kerb, usually for drop offs and pick ups. I have not said anything. On Saturday, they had left a car with music blaring out of it, all the doors open and the man and three friends were drinking beer outside their house. They were coming on to my property and making phone calls near my window ( my office looks out onto the street). I went out and asked them to move their car. Big mistake. They were all drunk and the neighbour plus an extremely aggressive friend started screaming at me over and over again. There was two of them shouting at me continuously. I have PTSD and I have felt sick ever since then. It has genuinely traumatised me. They didn’t swear or threaten me physically but I felt very threatened by the screaming and the shouting me down. I didn’t raise my voice and continued to be polite.
So now I feel that we need to get people in to put walls in the correct place. We don’t want their metal gate attached to our house (he goes to work at 4am and it rings through our whole house). The ladders thing against the gas pipes still worries me too.
How would you approach this? The last time we spoke to them about it, they said they would want money to compensate them for having to sort out new gates. I was thinking of writing to them and offering them £300 if they reply in writing to accept it.
Cluborange666 · 15/05/2023 13:28
Hi there, I’d appreciate advice.
Alongtimelonely · 15/05/2023 14:01
out of interest were their gates installed and attached to your house before you moved in?
I wouldn’t go in with an offer of £300
write a letter informing them you have decided to build a wall on the boundary line and will need them to remove their gates that are overlapping the boundary and attached to your house by [date], or if they do not wish to undertake the work, you will have the gates removed on their behalf and will return the gates to them so they can sell/dispose of them.
let them know that you will need them to remove the ladders from our property within two weeks.
apologise in advance for any noise or inconvenience while the work is undertaken
nd that’s all you say for now.
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