I just searched to find a thread on menopausal rage and this seems to be the only one (apart from someone obliquely referencing it).
I wouldn’t describe mine as ‘over nothing’ but it is more intense than it needs to be in the situation and I wanted to find others on here to chat to about it.
I’ve read that our anger when we’re a child is dangerous for us because it jeopardises the loving bond with the primary caregiver and this means that for most of us it makes us anxious. Added to this is the fact that as girls we were socialised to suppress our anger. And then add into the mix and family stuff around anger, like a parent who can’t cope with conflict or whatever.
So I think many of us reach this stage of life being ill equipped to deal with this particular emotion.
It’s a fantastic time to address it for ourselves - never too late to grow after all. I’m slowly learning what my triggers are (heaven FORFEND anyone who threatens the safety of my children - football players on the opposing team to my teen beware! 😂) and learning how to ‘do’ anger (notice it, be with it, don’t act it out.
But the reason I’m here wanting to chat about it is because, despite all the above knowledge, I still do ‘act it out’ and I would love to here from other people who have this too, and certainly from those who have found a way to be with anger.