Are you friends with your ex

[Thebabysitter25]

Just that really. I see alot of what seens to be negative stuff regarding the ex and child arrangements etc. I know that can be common. But I wounder if others have a good relationship with their ex. We still do days out in the summer or he might stay over if its a busy weekend.

We get on much better now that we don't live together, we're flexible and work well co-parenting in terms of what's best for the kids. We don't do stay overs though. Noone else on the scene for either of us yet and I have heard that things can change when that happens.

No he didn't want to continue to see his kids after we split up and to be honest I'm glad. He was an awful person and not a responsible father. People might say well why did you have kids with him then, but I was young, life happens and I've got some lovely kids from him that I don't regret having. I think even if we were on good terms, I wouldn't want to be going on family days out with him as we're not a family anymore. I'm married with more kids and that's our family unit now. If they had a decent father, I'd have no problem with him taking the kids out, but I wouldn't be going along too.

Yes, no kids. We eventually dropped contact apart from a minimum - occasional best wishes via friends, congrats via social media. Clean break up though, no cheating, just grew apart.

We get on well enough to co parent effectively but not well enough to be a couple. I wouldn't say we are friends but there is still a mutual trust there between us.

I am still friends with one ex, but have no contact with any others (no kids with any of them though!)

Nope - he’s an absolute nightmare!

God no. I hate his guts.

No. He's lazy and boring. And he's a shit dad. I'd rather punch myself in the belly until I vomit.

Yes, he‘a coming for tea tonight actually. DCs are at an age where they don’t want to go over at weekends any more so it’s nice for him to be able to see them for Sunday dinner.

No, there is a reason he's my ex (no children with him which obv makes a difference)

@Hotfuninthesummertime I can totally relate , I walked past mine the other day and pretended I didn't see him , can't stand his annoying face .

No but that's because he isn't a nice person pays no maintenance and won't have them overnight don't know how I can be friends with someone like that he tries to me overly friendly though which is annoying

We're in touch and on friendly terms, but we didn't have an acrimonious breakup anyway, just drifted apart.

Both in different relationships now and we have different friendship circles so we are not really 'friends' as such - that would be a bit hard and weird to maintain without any mutual reason to get together (no kids involved).

Good relationship with dd's dad - maybe not "friends" exactly - we don't socialise - but friendly and would support each other if needed. Texting not solely confined to matters related to DD - we also share major life news, the occasional joke or memory etc.

Superficially polite relationship with my former step-son's dad - occasional texts, still Facebook friends etc, Step-son is an adult so I don't need his dad to facilitate our ongoing relationship (which is still very close).

Not in touch with any of my other LTR exes. I do have a few former flings as Facebook friends, but nobody I am mega close to.

Yes. Love my eldest's dad to bits. All round lovely guy, we just did too much too soon when we were young. Still friends with exdh, younger kids' dad as again, a lovely guy. We both changed over the 20 years we were together. Ex that I finished with last year has become a really good and supportive friend. We get on wonderfully now we don't have relationship issues in the way. Went to the cinema with him and his lad last night.

I am not friends with any of mine. (No kids) Acrimonious breakups.

DH is friends with quite a few (also no kids with them). I always joke that I can't walk down the street without running into an ex or two. A couple came to our wedding I am godmother to the son of one of his exes. He is not in contact with his ex wife though as that was a brutal breakup.

No I'm fucking not.
He's a complete cunt.

Im friendly with most of my exs, no kids, though.
By friendly, I mean were FB friends, sometimes have a chat, but I wouldnt say were friends in the true sense of the word.

Best friends, support, still hang out and see each others families etc

I'd say we were friendly rather than friends - I don't confide in him or socialise with him, apart from the odd dinner for the sake of the DC on their birthdays etc, but I wish him well and we often have a brief chat when we're dropping off the DC.

ex is an idiot. we only "get on" because I adapt my behaviour to tolerate his shitness for avoidance of world war three. he's not terrible, we can get on as friends to an extent but there's a lot of bending over backwards on my part because we share a DS and it's for my DS sake. I try to show DS that exs can be sensible.