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Noisy neighbours

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itsrainin · 13/05/2023 01:53

Can anyone provide advice please?

I live in an apartment and privately rent. There are 2 other apartments next to mine. One of my neighbours are a family of 2 adults and up to 4 children.

The adults have loud, aggressive arguments at all hours, that last for hours. This is together with clattering and banging noises in the background that once concerned me enough to contact police. Though I don’t think the police attended, as I likely would have heard or needed to buzz them in.

One of the children randomly loudly grunts/screams/shouts, almost in a pattern? Eg yesterday there were high pitched shrieking noises for 30 minutes straight. In response the adults tend to shout back, there’s always banging noises too. The adults also argue with the children.

it’s such a loud household that I can clearly hear within my apartment so I raised a noise complaint with the council, who rejected it as it’s just household noise apparently. Where do I go from here?

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CombatBarbie · 13/05/2023 01:56

Record it, report to 101 online and repeat so you have a log

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itsrainin · 13/05/2023 01:56

forgot to add that this has been going on since 2021

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itsrainin · 13/05/2023 01:59

should I record the noise on my phone, or just by writing down each incident?

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Yummymummy2020 · 13/05/2023 02:07

Is the noise outside acceptable hours as such? For example, early in the morning or late at night? I think a family with four (I assume young kids) is always going to be very loud unfortunately. I think the council will be reluctant to interfere unless it is outside acceptable times or not family life, it would be a easier complaint if it was loud music or dogs barking incessantly ect . I know it’s not any nicer for you, but is it a possibility one of the children have SEN? I ask as what you are describing could be a reflection of that. The banging could be one of the kids.
if the banging is on your wall though that’s not acceptable. I wonder could more be done to noise proof the apartments? You probably can’t force them to do more but is there more you could do to try and block out some of the chaos!? I too live in an apartment with loud families around but I have come to accept that it’s part and parcel for the most part. We will try save for a house for a quieter life as apartments are a very communal way to live that come with noise if you prefer the quiet😂

NotMeSecretFormular · 13/05/2023 02:18

As regards the kid, feel lucky you're not my neighbour. DD has meltdowns that involve shrieking, screaming and shouting that can go on for hours. Luckily my neighbours have older kids and have been through the mill with this themselves. It's no fun on my side of the wall either. Occasionally I raise my voice because it's very difficult to deal with, feeling like you're constantly walking on eggshells and before you know it she's screaming again and you're just trying to ride it out as best you can because you've tried everything you can possibly think of for years and nothing else works.
This can happen at 8am or 1am or any time in between and goes on for hours until she's too tired to carry on. If you're stuck living next to similar and can't cope, move. There's no other option. Parents can't get help with this. You certainly won't.

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itsrainin · 13/05/2023 02:26

Yes, it’s at all hours, it’s going on now! Sorry but SEN or not, it’s not normal household noise for the adults to have full blown domestic arguments on a regular basis threatening divorce etc. I’m minded to contact social services as it must be a horrible environment for the children particularly if they do have SEN.

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NotMeSecretFormular · 13/05/2023 02:18

As regards the kid, feel lucky you're not my neighbour. DD has meltdowns that involve shrieking, screaming and shouting that can go on for hours. Luckily my neighbours have older kids and have been through the mill with this themselves. It's no fun on my side of the wall either. Occasionally I raise my voice because it's very difficult to deal with, feeling like you're constantly walking on eggshells and before you know it she's screaming again and you're just trying to ride it out as best you can because you've tried everything you can possibly think of for years and nothing else works.
This can happen at 8am or 1am or any time in between and goes on for hours until she's too tired to carry on. If you're stuck living next to similar and can't cope, move. There's no other option. Parents can't get help with this. You certainly won't.

Your poor neighbours! I'd hate to live next to you

NotMeSecretFormular · 13/05/2023 02:48

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itsrainin · 13/05/2023 02:49

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Honestly, you should start your own thread about your own issues. You’ve come on here with your own agenda and have now started name calling. My thread is not about you.

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NotMeSecretFormular · 13/05/2023 02:56

@itsrainin
I replied to make a point that there might be things going on behind the scenes that you have no idea about. Especially given what you've described. I gave my example to illustrate this.
PP was rude in response. I could've said worse. Your thread isn’t about me, but you'd do well to educate yourself on other peoples home lives. You don't know what makes them so noisy, nor what goes on behind closed doors. It's not a perfect world. Do expect responses that don't align with your expectations.

NotMeSecretFormular · 13/05/2023 02:58

If the adults are behaving as you describe then by all means do contact social services. You'd be remiss not to in the circumstances you describe. I would too.

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itsrainin · 13/05/2023 03:03

Yes, my primary concern is it sounds like DV between the adults. The children potentially having SEN is a much minor afterthought. I grew up in a volatile household too and have lived in uni halls, so I’m not sensitive to noise but simultaneously understand how growing up in that kind of environment impacts kids.

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NotMeSecretFormular · 13/05/2023 03:06

Then please report it. Why haven't you before if that's your main concern?

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itsrainin · 13/05/2023 03:18

I have contacted the police previously, I wrote that in my OP. I did also post in my OP that I was looking for advice on what to do next. I also informed the council specifically about the arguing too.

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you sound really unhinged!

helloimnew123 · 13/05/2023 08:03

It's really hard to live near noisy neighbours.

One of our neighbours (adult) use to scream constantly. I called the police and said I suspected domestic violence and they went and spoke to them. The neighbours then apologised and said they didn't realise how loud they were.

Is it possible they don't realise how loud they are?

user1471538283 · 13/05/2023 08:07

It's not normal family noise. Write each incident down. If it's really bad ring noise abatement so they come out. You could also contact your MP.

But in my experience with my city noise abatement are useless and noisy people know they are noisy. It is so stressful living like this. It really damaged my mental health and it took me 2 years to recover.

The good thing is that although you shouldn't have to and it's expensive you can move because you rent.

I sold my house and moved. I now live in an apartment surrounded by many more people and it's much quieter.

If you live by people I think you need to be careful about the noise you make.

How miserable for you. Please try and move.

bluetongue · 13/05/2023 09:09

I used to rent next door to awful, noisy neighbours. One of the few benefits of renting is that it’s much easier to move. I ended up moving and wish I’d done it sooner. Couldn’t hear my own TV over their music at times and this was in detached houses 😮

helloimnew123 · 14/05/2023 00:39

@Achwheesht

If your soo sympathetic, why don't you feel sorry for OP??

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itsrainin · 14/05/2023 21:58

Oh god it’s all started up again now. I have no idea wtf is going on. I’m so tempted to blast my speakers out on maximum volume. The man is loudly shouting and shrieking and the child is screaming too. It almost sounds like a game of who can scream the loudest. Fucking unhinged losers

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itsrainin · 14/05/2023 22:02

@Achwheesht clarify why I would I call my GP about this? The neighbours might not be registered with the same GP, how would my GP know their details? All I have is their address and name of one of the adults

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shmiz · 14/05/2023 22:02

Ring police
tell them there is a domestic disturbance going on right now
say you fear that children are being subjected to domestic abuse
tell police the disturbance is in progress now and escalating