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Am I in the wrong?

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Thebabysitter25 · 11/05/2023 19:49

I sort of know I am.

DD asked if I can baby sit this weekend coming. I said yes. But then 30 min later. I realised my kids are with their dad over night it's the 1st weekend I will be child free in the past 3 months or so. So I really want to have a big sort out of the house abd just be on my own.

So I told Dd can we do it the following week instead. And she started being really rude and having a go at me for letting her down. Going on about how I have let her down and ruined it for her. To be fair she's not been out for a few months either as she has a 6 week old plus she struggled at the end of her pregnancy. So she has not really been out child free.

Normally I have the baby every morning when she gos to the gym. Although this week never happend as things came up for her and she has a busy type of week.

I pointed out that I never got to go out at all when my kids were little. And she told I should not be comparing me and her. I was just trying to say that it could be worse and she should appreciate things .

Since at 1st I said yes . Should I really be doing it.

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Comedycook · 11/05/2023 19:52

Is the night out she planned movable? I mean if it's a wedding or a friend's birthday type thing where the date is set....or does she just want to pop out for dinner or drinks and can do it anytime?

If it's the latter then she's being very unreasonable and rude. She's incredibly lucky you look after her baby every morning. Does she ever look after your younger DC?

Haveallthesongsbeenwritten · 11/05/2023 19:52

eerrm maybe she is pushing a bit. I would not approve the rude attitude

makemineadoublee · 11/05/2023 19:52

I’m a bit on the fence as you don’t have plans and say she hasn’t had a break
but then equally no one should expect free childcare so 🤷‍♀️

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tailinthejam · 11/05/2023 19:59

She had a difficult end to her pregnancy, has a 6-week-old, and needs her mum to help. I think you ought to cut her some slack, to be honest.

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Thebabysitter25 · 11/05/2023 20:04

tailinthejam · 11/05/2023 19:59

She had a difficult end to her pregnancy, has a 6-week-old, and needs her mum to help. I think you ought to cut her some slack, to be honest.

When I say difficult I don't mean she was ill or anything. Just that she was drained and pregnancy pains. She does get alot of help from me.

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Nobsandnockers · 11/05/2023 20:05

You said yes. Can you imagine how she must have been feeling. Honour you word.

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Thebabysitter25 · 11/05/2023 20:06

Comedycook · 11/05/2023 19:52

Is the night out she planned movable? I mean if it's a wedding or a friend's birthday type thing where the date is set....or does she just want to pop out for dinner or drinks and can do it anytime?

If it's the latter then she's being very unreasonable and rude. She's incredibly lucky you look after her baby every morning. Does she ever look after your younger DC?

It's just general few drinks with her friend.

No she does not baby sit .

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ILoveCakeLikeTheToriesLoveRippingTaxPayersOff · 11/05/2023 20:07

You have her baby every morning so she can go to the gym. That is a break.

YANBU.

Comedycook · 11/05/2023 20:11

In that case, she can change the date. Sounds like you do a lot for her. She already gets time to herself every day. Way more than lots of mums of tiny babies get. You deserve a break too when your other kids are at their dads. You probably shouldn't have said yes before you'd checked the date and knew you could definitely do it..but she's being a madam imo.

Theunamedcat · 11/05/2023 20:13

Well stop the gym babysitting then you can do a clear out in the mornings im assuming yours are old enough for school?

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Thebabysitter25 · 11/05/2023 20:16

I just messaged her because I felt guilty. We have sorted a plan. Tomorrow day time she's going to come to me . And she's going to help me have a tidy up day so I can get things done. So I don't feel so crap about my house being a mess. So then I don't need to do to much juggling with the kids and house work.

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LakeTiticaca · 11/05/2023 20:42

A lot of mothers get no support at all or get a "break". Being able to go to the gym every morning is a luxury some women probably couldn't comprehend.
Your daughter sounds a bit ungrateful tbh

EarringsandLipstick · 11/05/2023 20:47

tailinthejam · 11/05/2023 19:59

She had a difficult end to her pregnancy, has a 6-week-old, and needs her mum to help. I think you ought to cut her some slack, to be honest.

What?!?!

This daughter sounds grossly entitled, and needs to cop on.

OP is not her slave to summon; did you not read where OP minds the baby daily so she can go to the gym??

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