No birthing partner

[Madhousemam]

So I'm having a c section on the 20th of next month and I'm trying to plan everything out my mum was going to be my birthing partner but after talking to the midwife today I have to be there for 7.00 and will have to wait as not a normal elective c section day so timing depends on how busy it is going back to my mum being my birthing partner she in the nicest way drives me nuts and is so demanding I can see her causing a bit of a stink if she has to wait to long and she takes over all of my decisions all ready I have said I want to get a b&b the night before as I have a pre op the day before and no buses at 6.00am but she said she will contact my aunt and uncle and stay there (I'm not that close to them) long story short has anyone done an elective c section on there own? I'm quite happy to watch Netflix on my phone with headphones on while waiting and chill out do I really need someone with me? Sorry it's a long post but wasn't quite expecting an early c section I was planning to have it 39 weeks but they have brought it forward to 37 weeks

I think you do need someone to be honest. I've had 4 sections and each time I've not been able to get out of bed for around 3 hours. It's the little things like someone holding your phone while you're in theatre and stuff and then passing you things while you're on the ward, watching the baby while you shower etc. All things that could be probably worked around, but would be easier if you had someone there.

Thank you for that I didn't think of things like that

Im a midwife. Plenty of people have elective sections without a birth partner. The staff are there to support you and can pass you things and help care for the baby when you can’t get out of bed etc

Oh that's brilliant to know maby it might be an idea then I just want everything nice and calm I think im just panicking a bit now as my other pregnancy's were all emergency c sections so didn't have time to think

I had dh with me for the actual c-sections but he had to leave pretty much straight away after my elective and about an hour after my emergency because he had to look after our other dc. I will have to admit it wasn't easy but it was doable. You don't want someone stressing you out while you are waiting though.

You’ll be fine and like a pp said you can ask for help from staff

or tell your mum to stay home and you’ll call her once they take you down. It only takes about 20 mins

It's better to have no birthing partner than one who will stress you out.
My child's Dad was a bit useless really him being there was of no benefit to me whatsoever (we weren't together). I'm still glad he was there because it helped him bonding with his child and he held the baby while I had a shower. I'm positive that the staff could have held the baby when I showered though if he hadn't been there. After he got sent home he couldn't come back because of covid rules so I spent a day and a half in hospital in a room on my own. I was upset at the time but I managed and with my 2nd baby I have considered not having him there, il decide nearer the time.

That's quite a good idea I might just do that as once baby is hear she will be all over him so won't drive me to nuts 😂😂😂

I had my twins alone for a c section due to covid lockdown amongst other things. It was fine. I didn't need any assistance with lifting the babies etc and I was discharged the next day - babies stayed longer due to health issues

Your mum coming after may be a good idea. She won't have to wait around and won't stress you out but could be there to help after you have delivered