Sad About Certain Friendships

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It’s so difficult - I have friends that are lovely & when we meet it’s great but I am doing nearly all the running. One particular friend I feel sad about because her DD, who is several years younger than mine, had an instant connection with DD14 but we haven’t seen them for over a year & I haven’t even met my friend’s DS who is nearly 2. I don’t want to end up coming across as some sort of stalker! Actually if I think about it, I rarely get invited to stuff first with a lot of my friends & I end up suggesting what to do. I haven’t seen my oldest closest friend for nearly 18 months! What should I do? Ad I said, I don’t want to hound people but equally it’s hard to know when to give up 😢

As not ad!!

Make some other friends and step back. Ita sad but you're not getting what you want and need out of these relationships. Stop hanging on and let go.

Anyone else?

Some people just don't arrange anything. If they say no, then take a step back but if they're happy to meet, I'd carry on if you like them. I have two friends who never arrange anything. I think I used to be like that when DC were small though. I just had too much on my plate at the time.

Well, what do you want? If you value these friendships and enjoy meeting, keep doing what you’re doing, surely. If it’s more important to you to have friendships where the other people are the ones seeking you out, you need to find different friends, and don’t establish the friendships on the basis of you doing the inviting.