I'm looking for a bit of advice about an acquaintance/ new friend (X)who I think might be bi-curious.
Quick summary below of the situation:
I attend a class one evening a week, there are 8 of us who take the class and X takes the training.
X usually spends a bit of time talking individually to everyone, just about social things while some of the others are doing exercises.
I am a lesbian and have been with my partner a number of years. Prior to finding this out X didn't spend much time talking to me really (although that could be because I was fairly new to the class). As soon as X found out I had a girlfriend she became very chatty and would ask a number of questions about my partner, how long we'd been together, why didn't I bring her along to class etc (noone else takes their OH to class).
We had a social gathering a couple of months ago, most of the people that attend her classes were there. I could sense X looking at me when I was chatting to other people from class and at one point she snuck up behind me and said something quite playful in my ear, her body just touching my back.
X will show me things on her phone in class, instead of just passing me her phone or turning it round so I can see she just stands right against me, her arm leaning against mine showing me her phone.
X will say things like look at your hand then touch them. I'm a gardener so my hands can get a bit rough sometimes!
Occasionally my SIL comes to class with me, if she is there X barely speaks to me or waits for my SIL to be doing an exercise then will come over for a chat.
X has started wearing tighter fitting clothes to class and she looks like she is making more of an effort in her appearance (make-up etc). I'd say she usually has quite an andro look.
X is a similar age to me, married to a man and has a couple of daughters. She does have a moan about him in class occasionally but I assume she is quite happy with him.
I am diagnosed autistic so sometimes find I don't read social situations very well and I usually can't tell if someone likes me even as a friend.
Something about the way X acts though feels quite flirty.
I don't want to give her the wrong impression, I am very happy with my OH but I have been told in the past I'm quite flirty (I think I'm just being friendly)
I can't tell whether she is just hoping for a bit of attention and it's safer coming from a woman as her husband is less likely to notice her flirting with a lady rather than another bloke. Or, whether she is possibly unhappy in her marriage and questioning her sexuality and using me as a bit of tool in her exploration.
I don't think she fancies me because her behaviour only became like this when she found out I was gay.
I would try and ask her about her sexuality to see if she'd open up but I'm not sure how to approach that really.
I remember what it was like to question my sexuality and I was young and had no commitments. I can't imagine what it's like if your a bit older, married with kids.
Should I try and be a friend and speak to her about it or just let it be.