DP came home drunk, fallen asleep on bathroom floor

colachive · 2023-05-08T00:29:25+00:00

He said he felt sick, which is why he's lying on the bathroom floor, but now he's gone to sleep (snoring) and I'm terrified he's going to choke on his own vomit. I've tried waking him up and he's not shifting at all! He's sleeping soundly so it seems a bit extreme to call 999 for a sleeping drunk. But I can't watch over him all night! He's on his back too but I can't really shift him onto his side because of the way he's lying against the bath. Any help or advice?

Fraaahnces · 08/05/2023 01:30

Leave him there. He’ll wake up cold and sore but that’s his own decision.

MrsTerryPratchett · 08/05/2023 01:32

You can roll him by corkscrewing his legs. Then a cushion or towel behind to make sure he doesn't roll back.

IWantRebeccasConfidence · 08/05/2023 01:35

Take a video of him being unrousable in this state, for when he denies it tomorrow.
although if he is properly unresponsive to painful stimulus then maybe you do need some outside help.

IWantRebeccasConfidence · 08/05/2023 01:36

Hold a pencil across his nail bed or press thumb above his eyebrow

Simonjt · 08/05/2023 01:36

Just put a blanket on him, why on earth would you even entertain calling 99?

MrsTerryPratchett · 08/05/2023 01:38

Simonjt · 08/05/2023 01:36

Just put a blanket on him, why on earth would you even entertain calling 99?

Because he said he felt sick and people do aspirate on vomit drunk.

ReadersD1gest · 08/05/2023 01:39

He's asleep. Is there any reason to suppose he's still about to vomit?

Original poster

colachive · 08/05/2023 01:41

Thanks so much for the advice everyone - I just tried to put a pillow behind his back as one poster advised, which woke him up -- he then grabbed the pillow, positioned it behind his head and went back to sleep (in original position!!)!! so I hope that means he's just a drunk arse and not dangerously pissed/at huge risk of vomiting.

We are supposed to be going out tomorrow... 🙄

OP posts:

MrsTerryPratchett · 08/05/2023 01:42

colachive · 08/05/2023 01:41

Thanks so much for the advice everyone - I just tried to put a pillow behind his back as one poster advised, which woke him up -- he then grabbed the pillow, positioned it behind his head and went back to sleep (in original position!!)!! so I hope that means he's just a drunk arse and not dangerously pissed/at huge risk of vomiting.

We are supposed to be going out tomorrow... 🙄

If he's easily rouseable I wouldn't worry.

Original poster

colachive · 08/05/2023 01:43

Thank you @MrsTerryPratchett that's good to know

OP posts:

Deathmetal · 08/05/2023 01:44

I think it’s unlikely he would choke on his own vomit, sounds like catastrophizing. I’d leave him to it

MrsTerryPratchett · 08/05/2023 01:44

Most of my experience is opioids though!

Not me you understand!! Clients.

Fraaahnces · 08/05/2023 01:44

I second videoing him and threatening to send it to his mummy.

Original poster

colachive · 08/05/2023 01:45

@Fraaahnces he's starkers so I think she'd get quite the shock!

OP posts:

TomatoSandwiches · 08/05/2023 01:46

If you want him to get up rub your knuckles on his sternum quite hard, that will get him up.

MrsTerryPratchett · 08/05/2023 01:48

colachive · 08/05/2023 01:45

@Fraaahnces he's starkers so I think she'd get quite the shock!

Yowsers. Maybe a towel on him then.

Simonjt · 08/05/2023 01:49

Fraaahnces · 08/05/2023 01:44

I second videoing him and threatening to send it to his mummy.

Why, do you for some reason think his mum is responsible for his behaviour?

Fraaahnces · 08/05/2023 01:54

@Simonjt Why would I think she is responsible? I imagine he’s going to be a whiny PITA when he wakes up, potentially also messy. OP said that they had plans for the morning also. He probably won’t be caring too much about OP’s opinion of his behaviour and current position, but I can bet that he wouldn’t want this photo being shown to his mummy when he’s being a manbaby tomorrow.

Simonjt · 08/05/2023 01:55

Fraaahnces · 08/05/2023 01:54

@Simonjt Why would I think she is responsible? I imagine he’s going to be a whiny PITA when he wakes up, potentially also messy. OP said that they had plans for the morning also. He probably won’t be caring too much about OP’s opinion of his behaviour and current position, but I can bet that he wouldn’t want this photo being shown to his mummy when he’s being a manbaby tomorrow.

You clearly do think she is, and its also fairly clear you think so in this reply.

ReadersD1gest · 08/05/2023 01:56

Fraaahnces · 08/05/2023 01:54

@Simonjt Why would I think she is responsible? I imagine he’s going to be a whiny PITA when he wakes up, potentially also messy. OP said that they had plans for the morning also. He probably won’t be caring too much about OP’s opinion of his behaviour and current position, but I can bet that he wouldn’t want this photo being shown to his mummy when he’s being a manbaby tomorrow.

Ridiculous 🙄. Op and her dp are grown adults, Mummy shouldn't feature in this in any capacity.
Besides, why are you assuming he won't care what op thinks, but would respond more positively to Mummy's disapproval?! Are you projecting at all?

NotMeSecretFormular · 08/05/2023 02:28

Leave the stupid arse there. Go to bed and sleep comfortably (he won't). Go ahead with your plans for tomorrow without him. Make it clear when you get home what a fucking bellend he is.

RabbitRabbitRabbitHouse · 08/05/2023 02:29

Do not ring 999

MrsTerryPratchett · 08/05/2023 02:33

RabbitRabbitRabbitHouse · 08/05/2023 02:29

Do not ring 999

In this case no.

But anyone else reading, if someone cannot be roused or you suspect aspiration, do call 999.

jakephi · 08/05/2023 02:40

If it's a one off. He's your husband, make sure he's safe and look after him. Unless he purposely is messing your plans up. But if it was the other way around and you went out and overdid it, you'd hope he looked after you, put you to bed safe and didn't make you suffer the next day

Fraaahnces · 08/05/2023 03:25

Wtf? Nothing implies that I think his mummy is responsible. I think he would CARE about what his mummy would think about his dumbass behaviour when he doesn’t seem to give a shit about what his wife thinks. All too often it seems that once you live with them or you’re married, you’re expected to suck up appalling behaviour. Frankly, he if he barfs - assuming he’s not choking on it, he should be left to clean it up and deal with the consequences and not shielded from everyone’s reactions.